Burned Out from People-Pleasing? 10 Exact Phrases Nonprofit Leaders Can Steal to Set Boundaries28/11/2024 A Simple Boundary That Changed Everything for Me As a nonprofit leader, it's easy to fall into the trap of trying to please everyone—your eager team member, your boss with endless demands, your kids with constant requests, Aunt Tina's needy texts, and even your partner asking for that special dessert. The Cost of People-Pleasing in LeadershipThat leaves nothing for you. But you can't lead with confidence, compassion, and fairness if you're running on fumes.
The Link Between Boundaries and Better Decision-MakingWhen you're constantly running on empty, the decisions and interactions that define how people judge your leadership suffer. And your team, your quality of work and the people you serve all feel the impact. That's why setting boundaries isn't just self-care; it's a leadership skill. It allows you to recharge, refocus, and bring your best self to the table. Boundaries aren't just about protecting your time. They are about preserving your energy and ability to think clearly and stay focused on what matters most. When you effectively set boundaries, it helps you to feel confident, capable, composed, and aligned with your integrity as a leader. A Simple Boundary That Changed Everything for MeI learned this the hard way. As a nonprofit leader, I often found myself saying yes to tasks I didn't have time for. You'd often find me on a Sunday morning buried in timesheets instead of recharging or tackling things at home. I was exhausted, stretched thin, and feeling like there was no end in sight. Instead of benefiting anyone—my team, my family, or even myself—I was draining the energy I desperately needed to keep going. I'll never forget the first time I set a clear boundary. There was a leadership meeting in the city, and normally, I would have flown out the morning of the meeting, stayed overnight, and done the second day before coming home the following night. It meant being gone for much of two days, and I'd always come back completely drained. But this time, I decided to do things differently. If I stayed overnight, I'd miss my kids having activities that I wanted to be a part of. So, I told my boss I'd prefer to join the meeting via conference call instead. (This was back before Zoom!) To my surprise, my boss said 'OK' without much thought. I couldn't believe how simple it was and how much energy and presence I saved for my family and work by speaking up. It took courage to set that boundary, but before I could do that, I had to figure out how to say it. Sometimes, I nailed down the "right" phrase with my coach or worked through several variations in my journal before I landed on the one that felt right. How to Say No Gracefully and Protect Your EnergyI often hear from my clients and students that they get it, but they don't know the "exact" words to use. No problem, I've got you covered. If you need help communicating your boundaries, here are practical examples you can borrow:
Remember, leadership isn't about doing everything for everyone—it's about doing what matters most with the energy and clarity to do it well. Boundaries allow you to lead decisively, compassionately, and fairly without sacrificing your own well-being. A Small Change That Helped One Leader Reclaim Her TimeLooking back, setting boundaries didn't just save my energy—it made me a better leader. I stopped overcommitting, became more present for my team and family, and felt more confident in my decisions. I've seen this with my clients, too: One of my clients was struggling with her days being packed with back-to-back meetings and no time to get her administrative work done. By mid-morning, she'd already feel frazzled and behind. Together, we worked on setting a clear boundary: she started blocking off the first 30 minutes of her day for preparation and made it clear that meetings couldn't be scheduled during that time. At first, she worried about how her team might react, but the response was overwhelmingly positive. Over time, her team began respecting her time, and even started setting healthier boundaries for themselves. That small adjustment made a big difference for everyone. Save These Phrases and Start Setting Boundaries TodayHere are five more phrases you can steal to set clear boundaries
Save these phrases and use them to set clear boundaries, manage your energy, and prevent burnout. By protecting your time and staying aligned with your values, you'll maintain the stamina to handle your responsibilities while producing quality work and building strong relationships. 
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5 Secrets for Women Leaders to Build Engagement and Run Effective Nonprofit Staff Meetings5/11/2024 Turn Wasted Nonprofit Meetings into Valuable Team TimeIf you want to stop leaving your nonprofit staff meetings feeling frustrated and like they are a colossal waste of time, this is for you!  So many times, I walked into a staff meeting hoping for meaningful conversations, only to leave feeling exhausted and frustrated. Often, as soon as I got to the safety of my office, the tears flowed. I hope your meetings aren't that bad, but I wonder if there is a similar story to yours. Here's the thing: we weren't taught how to run staff meetings when we stepped into our nonprofit team leadership role. So, we do them the same as our predecessors did them. In many cases, that way is archaic and ineffective. It's time for a new way of running staff meetings. For starters, meetings should do more than check off agenda items. They are an opportunity to connect with your team, build relationships, grow your team members and make some decisions. This will boost morale and get stuff done! With a few intentional changes to your agenda and how you run your meetings, you can turn your energy-draining meetings, where you want to poke your eyes out or scream, into productive, engaging sessions that staff and you, as the leader, look forward to. Here are five strategies designed to help women leaders like you run meetings that inspire connection, accountability, and progress. 1 ) Review Your Agenda Items with these 8 QuestionsYour engaging nonprofit meeting starts with your agenda. You must put intention into preparing your well-thought-out and prepared agenda. It ensures you aren't wasting time, the right conversations are happening, and your time is well spent. If you aren't creating and distributing an agenda beforehand, that's a good place to start. Trust me, I know that sharing the agenda in advance can feel terrifying. I remember that fear that bubbled up when I thought about doing it.
Keeping the agenda under wraps until the minute the meeting started felt easier. I wanted to avoid conflict by catching everyone off guard. But it wasn't the best way for me or you. Holding back the agenda isn't fair to your team. When your staff don't know what's coming, they feel blindsided, defensive, or frustrated. It sends the message that their input isn't valued or welcomed. That lack of transparency builds tension and mistrust over time. Distributing the agenda in advance gives your team the chance to engage thoughtfully. They'll have time to prepare meaningful input, anticipate decisions, and feel more confident participating. Yes, there might be tough conversations and maybe even some pushback, but addressing those challenges openly and with courage, rather than stifling them is better. If you still have the same agenda you've had for the last 15 years, please ditch it and start fresh. It's time to create a new agenda and refresh it for each meeting. Here's a checklist to help women leaders like you build a purposeful, clear staff meeting agenda:
2) Start Every Nonprofit Staff Meeting with Human ConnectionMeetings in the nonprofit sector aren't just about tasks—they're about people. If you jump straight into business, you miss an important chance to create positive energy. My motto: Connect before you continue. Begin each meeting with a quick check-in or icebreaker. Ask your team to share one word that describes how they're feeling or invite them to share a recent win, no matter how small. You may encourage them to express gratitude to another team member. I know these exercises may feel hoky or a waste of time, but these micro-moments of connection build trust and create deeper relationships on your teams. Those stronger connections help your team build stronger collaborative relationships and get through future challenges better. 3) Share Responsibility to Build Engagement Among Nonprofit TeamsIf you're the only one talking, your meeting becomes a one-way broadcast and no one enjoys that. The meeting should be a dialogue, not a monologue. Your job is to grow your team, and that growth may be to help them become future leaders, learn to speak up or grow their public speaking skills. Therefore, it makes sense to use staff meetings to grow your nonprofit team by giving them roles during the meeting. Rotate who leads agenda sections, facilitates an activity, or tracks action items. Sharing the responsibility of running a staff meeting frees up some of your energy, gives your team ownership of the meeting, and helps them develop their skills. Remember, you are investing in growing future leaders. This will also help you have people to share your workload while making them feel important, invested in and noticed. 4) Make Action Items Clear and Track AccountabilityLeaving a meeting without clear next steps means there is a good chance things will get missed, especially since everyone in the nonprofit sector is so stinking busy. To ensure everyone is clear on their roles and learned to be more accountable for doing things between meetings, be sure to make time towards the end of the meeting to identify who is responsible for what and by when. Document these commitments so they're easy to follow up on at the next meeting. Identify who is responsible for what and by when. You need to stop feeling like you're carrying the whole load. When everyone knows their responsibilities, you won't have to nag, remind, and pray that things will get done. And, there will be less chance you'll have to pick up the missed work. Things move forward with less stress and increased accountability. 5) End on a High Note with Specific AppreciationHow you wrap up your meeting will shape your team's feelings about leaving the meeting and, thus, what they do next. End with appreciation, energy, and positivity, keeping the momentum going long after the meeting. Close with specific appreciation. Avoid vague phrases like "Thanks, everyone!" Instead, offer meaningful recognition: "Jessica, I really appreciate how you took charge of the project timeline last week. It made a huge difference." Specific appreciation boosts morale, reinforces positive behaviour, and shows your team that you know them, are clear on their strengths and that you care about them as a person. After sharing appreciation, end with an energizing question. Ask,
Why Effective Staff Meetings Are Key to Nonprofit Success for Women LeadersWe need to stop having our nonprofit meetings as just a time to share updates. They are opportunities for so much more. You'll need to be strategic and intentional about setting them up to get a different result. When your meetings focus on connection, shared responsibility, and appreciation, they become a powerful tool for engagement. I know that as a woman leading your nonprofit, you often struggle with balancing many competing priorities. It may seem counterintuitive to invest some of your valuable energy into running a different kind of staff meeting but trust me when you do, you'll ditch the frustration and tears as I did. Investing in planning will help you reclaim control, build trust with your team, and feel more confident in running team meetings.
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