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Without this, you can't be happy

13/10/2015

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Most of us don't know how to be happy. We only feel joy or bliss when there is an exaggerated awareness of it. Thanksgiving this weekend was the opportunity to heighten our sense of gratitude.

What about the rest of the time? Do we miss those opportunities to feel pleasant feelings? I think we do, and I believe it’s up to us to change that. Here is how.
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As I noticed what I am grateful for in my life, I realized these are my happiest times of the day: ​
  1. Stretching during my AM yoga routine
  2. My first sip of coffee 
  3. My afternoon walks in the sunshine
  4. My husband’s daily hug when he gets home from work
  5. Crawling into bed at night
Do you know your happiest times of day? 
Here's the thing; if you don't know your happiest times of day, how can you even identify what happiness is?

Do you know the feeling you have when you're happy?
Do you know what it does to you and those around you? 

Happiness starts with being able to feel it. You need to be able to get an understanding that something different is happening. To lock it in, you also need to expressive it in some way to yourself.

When I'm stretching, I feel my body relax. During reclined twist, I understand that my body chemistry is changing in that exact moment and that it is reducing the stress in my body. I can say that to myself, I am feeling my body unwind and soften.

When Ernie hugs me in his big bear hug at the end of the day, I feel myself leaning to him. I can sense us become one. I know that there is an exchange of love between our hearts at that moment. I can say to myself, I am loved, and I love. 

To feel happiness and experience happiness you need to be able to:
  1. Identify it as a good feeling. “Hey, something satisfying is happening here!”
  2. Feel it. Allow your body and mind experience this sensation.
  3. Notice it. Be aware that you are feeling happy, joyful, relaxed or just plain good.

Look back over your day so far. What have your favorite times been?
Why?
What was different about those moments? 

To feel happiness, you must recognize happiness. Learn to look for happy moments in your day. Study happiness in your life. Slow down long enough to identify happy times.  Feel the joy. Notice what it does to your body, mind, and notice.

​When you become a student of happiness, you will find more happiness in your life. 

2 Comments
Nancy
16/10/2015 08:06:26 am

Thanks for this reminder Kathy. It's good to think of the reasons why things are highlights in our day. When we know that, it outlines our values. We are reminded of what grounds us and we can be more mindful to create those moments more frequently.. .even better ask those around us how we can create those moments for them too. Ask, "How can I help make your day awesome?" This helps create a great atmosphere. Sometimes it will catch people off guard cuz they don't know what can improve their day. Like your blog talks about. Like a wheel. What you put out comes back at ya. :) Thanks Kathy for your encouragement.

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19/10/2015 06:44:18 am

Thanks Nancy! I love your question: How can I help make your day awesome?
The world would be sooooo different if more people asked that!

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