Perfectionism will never get you anywhere
If I waited until I had the wording just perfect to post this blog, you would have never seen it. if I waited to get my programs just perfect before I marketed them, I'd never launch them. If I had waited until my kids had grown up, work had slowed down and the moon aligned perfectly, I would never have taken my management degree.
Push aside perfectionism to keep moving
If you wait until things are perfect, you won't ever get going. You won't send the email, finish the proposal, join the group or apply on that position. You will get stuck where you are and feel like you aren't moving. You won't get anywhere. You will spend your time thinking it's not quite right, not good enough or needs more and so you delay. You hold off. You don't do it. You don't get anywhere.
Perfectionism Slows us down
When we allow the mind chatter to get in the way, it tells us we haven't quite got it right. It needs more. Those voices in our head become quite loud saying, not just yet. Hold off until you get it perfect. Those bossy perfectionist in your head slows you down.
The reality is you just need to do your best.
Your best may change from day to day, but if you always do your best you will continue to move forward and not be bogged down by perfectionism. Do good work. Do work you can be proud of. That kind of work is different than perfect work. It is the real honest to goodness you showing up with all your skills, talents and energy of your day and doing what you are capable of doing.
Perfectionism sets you and those around you up with unrealistic expectations
We have a set of criteria that we measure our success by. We measure how good we are doing things by this set of rules. If the rules say everything needs to be perfect, you are setting an extremely high bar to reach.
When you expect nothing less than perfection from others, they are stretched beyond ability. Instead of people feeling encouraged and inspired, they feel discouraged and disempowered.
When I feel I have to make something perfect, my confidence starts to fade. I worry. I fret. I second guess myself. I hedge. I get caught up in listing what is wrong and not working rather than focusing on what is working well.
Instead, set a realistic bar.
Set a bar that both stretches you but also allows you to grow. Look at the task in front of you and ask, "What is the perfect outcome?" Now ask "If I do my very best at this, what will I produce". Your likely to get a different answer than the first one, a bar that you can more realistically meet.
Don't ... strive for perfection
Do ... Do Your Best
Work towards doing your best and then move on to the next thing. You will feel more confident and find more successes on a daily basis.
WATCH the video below to see me in my not perfect mode
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