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<channel><title><![CDATA[KATHY ARCHER - Blog Posts]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog]]></link><description><![CDATA[Blog Posts]]></description><pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2026 07:47:42 -0700</pubDate><generator>Weebly</generator><item><title><![CDATA[How to Not Take Feedback Personally at Work]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/how-to-not-take-feedback-personally-at-work]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/how-to-not-take-feedback-personally-at-work#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Fri, 06 Feb 2026 09:50:59 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/how-to-not-take-feedback-personally-at-work</guid><description><![CDATA[       		            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/how-to-stop-taking-feedback-personally_orig.jpg" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="200271304913427869"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-5ca5d877-e67f-43b2-9ed4-bdd8e03a0d06" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 24px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 24px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 24px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-w9gw8rvlfoq" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><b>That knot in your stomach before a tough meeting? Here's what to do about it.</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">I was talking to Sandra earlier this week. Sandra is a manager of a busy, short-staffed program. And, she has a meeting with her boss coming up, and she&rsquo;s been <strong>dreading it for a week</strong>.<br /><br />&ldquo;<em>Every time I think about it, the knot in my stomach gets tighter,</em>&rdquo; she told me.<br /><br />She knows what&rsquo;s coming. Her boss will point out everything she&rsquo;s doing wrong, <strong>highlight her weaknesses</strong>, and Sandra will walk out feeling beaten down instead of supported.<br /><br />Sandra&rsquo;s <strong>mind has been working overtime</strong>, imagining the worst: being fired on the spot, raked over the coals, belittled.<br /><br />Here&rsquo;s what I told her: Most of what you fear will probably happen. Your boss will pick you apart. She will be mean about it.</div>  <div id="635831888814263135"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-c898476e-76fd-4e23-92af-86d50ec1e710" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1 {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.3!important;;                font-size: 23px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1 i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-ks9p2qh8z1" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Here's What You Can Control</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">But here&rsquo;s what you get to control&nbsp;<br /><br /><strong>You don&rsquo;t have to believe all of it.</strong> You don&rsquo;t have to take it as the absolute truth. You get to choose which parts are helpful and which are just noise.<br /><br />To help her make choices that would help <strong>her feel more in control</strong>, confident, and aligned, I walked Sandra through how to prepare for the meeting using The Infinite Leadership Loop.</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/4276f85f67d1c01d831943cad13f81e303e10a7e8d8d347faba4f0616c3c1b32a023dc74f0ec55a4ad7be9586e0bc923063aaa250972dfe46fdf8a7458b5195d4b701b66a10510a3745e1b796c2a0d1c9891611377b23e7f10accc3abd0661b68a3f7853_orig.webp" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="404426459299034316"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-51925989-d406-4636-8de4-778235ebe43d" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.2!important;;                font-size: 23px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.2!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-kus60ghc6pk {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.2!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-kus60ghc6pk" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>The Inner Work: Pause, Ponder, Pivot, Proceed</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><strong>First, PAUSE</strong><br /><br />Before you react to what she says, take a breath. Even if she&rsquo;s waiting for you to respond.<br /><br /><strong>Then, PONDER</strong><br /><br />Get clear on what&rsquo;s actually true vs. what&rsquo;s just mean delivery.<br /><br />Her boss will say: &ldquo;You have too much overtime. You&rsquo;re not good at managing your time. You&rsquo;re always late with reports.&rdquo;<br /><br />Here&rsquo;s where Sandra gets to choose how she hears it.<br /><br /><strong>Victim mindset:</strong><br /><br /><em>I don&rsquo;t know how to do this work without overtime<br />I&rsquo;ve never been good at managing my time<br />I&rsquo;m not leadership material</em><br /><br /><strong>Response-able mindset:</strong><br /><br /><em>I&rsquo;ve been working hard and putting in extra effort<br />I&rsquo;m committed, and I care about my job<br />Yes, the overtime is killing me. I want to reduce it - not because my boss is telling me to, but because I want to figure leadership out AND have a life.</em><br /><br /><strong>PIVOT your thoughts</strong><br /><br />Shift from &ldquo;I&rsquo;m not leadership material&rdquo; to &ldquo;I&rsquo;m learning, and I care about getting better at this.&rdquo;<br /><br /><strong>Then PROCEED</strong><br /><br />Get ready to have the conversation, holding onto that truth instead of the mean delivery.<br /><br />This is the inner work. But it doesn&rsquo;t stop there.</div>  <div id="136452416475894309"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-eb079c8d-2b6d-4e99-9c0c-ce94235d2b2d" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.3!important;;                font-size: 23px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-znjcuk1bnoj" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Then Comes the PEOPLE Part</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><strong>The PEOPLE part&nbsp;</strong><br /><br />This is when Sandra actually walks into that meeting with her boss. She&rsquo;s done the inner work, so now she can engage with her boss differently. She can listen to the feedback, take what&rsquo;s useful, and let the rest go. She&rsquo;s not reacting from a place of feeling small. <strong>She&rsquo;s responding from a place of strength.</strong></div>  <div id="692110288833676313"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-2a250014-5bb4-4939-a386-0e5ce54279f7" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 23px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-qws3gd84gxs {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 23px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-qws3gd84gxs" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>What Happened Next</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">By the end of our call, Sandra was still nervous. But instead of feeling like a victim of the conversation, <strong>she felt in control</strong> of how she&rsquo;d hear it and what she&rsquo;d do with it.<br /><br />The tightness in her stomach had started to ease.</div>  <div id="745544028880027789"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-215e0f44-994f-4c12-9ea6-66650f8761d9" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-u0t8lalk4wc" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Join the Book Club!</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/ac12ce825ec22827da9155550b622d2546cd6359a587f82001dc5f820dacdbcab22124557a01f444b5c1936b5ca2b77faa0a25e82056ae90ca1f6ac82d1d70d54ed1563ed349c66335ef4a87c1d95af67dd11e24d6a1266cfe08944974eef34ff3a35497_orig.webp" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">If you&rsquo;re tired of that knot in your stomach before tough meetings, you might be interested in the 6-week <a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/mastering-confidence-book-club.html" target="_blank">Mastering Confidence Book Club</a> starting March 6, where we work through The Infinite Leadership Loop together.<br /><br />- You&rsquo;ll learn how to become response-able.<br /><br />- How to take back your power.<br /><br />- How to handle tough conversations without feeling beaten down.<br /><br />Dates: Fridays 12-1:30 PM Mountain Time on Zoom. March 6 - April 17<br /><br />Details and registration here: <a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/mastering-confidence-book-club.html" target="_blank">Mastering Confidence Book Club</a><br /><br /><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/mastering-confidence-book-club.html" target="_blank">Join the Book Club</a></div>  <div class="wsite-spacer" style="height:26px;"></div>  <div class="paragraph">I know what it&rsquo;s like to dread those meetings. To feel like you&rsquo;re walking into a conversation where you&rsquo;ll be torn apart. But you don&rsquo;t have to keep feeling powerless. You can learn to take back control of how you hear feedback and how you show up. That&rsquo;s what being response-able means, and you can do it too!<br /><br />Remember, you don&rsquo;t have to do leadership alone.&nbsp; I&rsquo;m here to help.<br /><br />~ Kathy&nbsp;<br /><br />Do the Inner Work. It&rsquo;s Worth it!<br /><br />P.S. If you&rsquo;re thinking, &ldquo;I need <a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/mastering-confidence-book-club.html" target="_blank">this book club</a>, but I&rsquo;m not sure if now is the right time&rdquo;, trust me, there&rsquo;s never a perfect time. But there is a right time. And if you&rsquo;re still taking that knot in your stomach to every tough meeting, that time is now.<br /><br />P.P.S. Sandra messaged me after her meeting. &ldquo;It worked,&rdquo; she said. &ldquo;I still felt nervous, but I was in control of my emotions and my responses. I didn&rsquo;t feel small.&rdquo; That&rsquo;s what this work does<br /></div>  <div class="wsite-youtube" style="margin-bottom:10px;margin-top:10px;"><div class="wsite-youtube-wrapper wsite-youtube-size-auto wsite-youtube-align-center"> <div class="wsite-youtube-container">  <iframe src="//www.youtube.com/embed/tXqjcImr_TQ?wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> </div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[If you’re carrying a lot, this one’s for you]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/if-youre-carrying-a-lot-this-ones-for-you]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/if-youre-carrying-a-lot-this-ones-for-you#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 29 Jan 2026 05:45:02 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/if-youre-carrying-a-lot-this-ones-for-you</guid><description><![CDATA[       &#8203;It&rsquo;s a lot right now, isn&rsquo;t it?The news. The uncertainty. The weather. The constant pressure to show up for your team, your community, your mission, let alone what&rsquo;s going on in your personal life! Sometimes, I don&rsquo;t know about you, but I feel like the world feels like it&rsquo;s spinning faster than I can keep up with.&#8203;So, just know, if you&rsquo;ve been feeling that weight, you&rsquo;re not alone.And...Those of us who lead in the nonprofit world are  [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/jan-29-blog-are-you-carrying-a-lot-right-now_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;It&rsquo;s a lot right now, isn&rsquo;t it?<br /><br />The news. The uncertainty. The weather. The constant pressure to show up for your team, your community, your mission, let alone what&rsquo;s going on in your personal life! Sometimes, I don&rsquo;t know about you, but <span style="font-weight:bold">I feel like the world feels like it&rsquo;s spinning faster than I can keep up with.<br />&#8203;</span><br />So, just know, if you&rsquo;ve been feeling that weight, you&rsquo;re not alone.<br /><br />And...Those of us who lead in the nonprofit world are <span style="font-weight:bold">really good at taking care of everyone else.</span> We pour ourselves into our work because we care deeply about the people and causes we serve.<br /><br />But we&rsquo;re terrible at extending that same compassion to ourselves.<br /><br />So if you&rsquo;re feeling heavy right now, this email is permission to take what you need. Not everything here will be right for you, and that&rsquo;s okay. 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It&rsquo;s what allows us to keep showing up without burning out.<br /><br />If you&rsquo;re being harder on yourself than you&rsquo;d ever be with someone you care about, I want you to check out Dr. Kristin Neff&rsquo;s work on self-compassion. She&rsquo;s a researcher who&rsquo;s spent years studying this, and her approach is practical, not woo-woo. I go back to it again and again when I feel off, scared, anxious, overwhelmed or sad.<br /><br />You can find her work at <span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="http://self-compassion.org/">self-compassion.org</a></span>. There are free exercises, guided meditations, and resources that can help you shift how you talk to yourself when things feel hard.<br />&#8203;<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">My biggest takeaway from learning about self-compassion was learning to hug myself. </span>I do it often now. I know, it sounds a little weird, but honestly, sometimes there is no one else around to do it, or who wouldn't give you the hug in the way you need it.<br /><br />Sometimes the most important leadership work we do is <span style="font-weight:bold">learning to treat ourselves with the same kindness we extend to everyone else.</span></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/published/self-compassion-hug.png?1769666023" alt="Picture" style="width:266;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="572415312234654883"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-c1892511-de4f-4b41-9485-403c71f3870f" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(114,177,211,0.32941176470588235)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: rgba(0,0,0,1)!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-08yofo2p3h5k" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><div><b>When you need help with a difficult conversation (like, today)</b><br></div></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;Speaking of being hard on ourselves, let&rsquo;s talk about those conversations you&rsquo;ve been avoiding.<br /><br />You know the ones.<ul><li>The talk with the employee who is<span style="font-weight:bold"> underperforming.</span></li><li>The board member who keeps<span style="font-weight:bold"> overstepping.</span></li><li>The colleague you need to address, <span style="font-weight:bold">something uncomfy</span> with, but keep putting off because what if it goes sideways?</li></ul><br />I just put out a new YouTube video called &ldquo;<span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="https://youtu.be/tXqjcImr_TQ">Scared to Talk to Your Employee?&nbsp;</a></span>Try This First.&rdquo; It walks you through my TIP formula, a simple three-step process to <span style="font-weight:bold">prepare for difficult conversations so you can walk in feeling grounded instead of anxious.<br />&#8203;</span><br />And you know me, the video is practical with strategies you can use immediately. 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But this isn&rsquo;t just reading and discussing. You&rsquo;ll get <span style="font-weight:bold">coached on your actual leadership challenges</span>, practice the framework in real-time, and <span style="font-weight:bold">leave with a personal system for rebuilding confidence whenever it wavers.</span><br /><br />We start March 6 and meet Fridays from 12:00-1:30 PM Mountain Time for six weeks (with a break for Good Friday, so we run through April 17). I keep the groups intentionally small, so you get real coaching and connection with other women leaders who understand what you&rsquo;re dealing with.<br /><br />You can <span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/mastering-confidence-book-club.html">learn more about the Mastering Confidence Book Club and join here</a></span></div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/published/book-to-help-me-build-my-leadership-confidence-as-a-nonprofit-leader.png?1769666301" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="447598674210402416"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-564017f0-042f-4f63-9b0f-19118ff726ec" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(114,177,211,0.32941176470588235)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: rgba(0,0,0,1)!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-r1djsixtb1g {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-r1djsixtb1g" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><b>When you need to replenish (not just push through)</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;Here&rsquo;s something I&rsquo;m excited about: I&rsquo;m speaking at the <span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="https://leadwithheart.vfairs.com/">Lead with Heart Summit&nbsp;</a></span>on April 16, 2026.<br /><br />This is a virtual gathering for nonprofit leaders who are <span style="font-weight:bold">exhausted from being told to just push through.</span> The whole event is designed around this question: What if leading well didn&rsquo;t mean sacrificing yourself?<br /><br />I&rsquo;ll be talking about<span style="font-weight:bold"> &ldquo;The Myth of After-Hours Wellness: How Real Leaders Restore Themselves AT Work.</span>&rdquo; Because the truth is, most of us can&rsquo;t squeeze self-care into the margins of our already packed lives. We need to learn how to weave restoration into how we actually show up during the workday.<br /><br /><span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="https://leadwithheart.vfairs.com/">You can learn more here</a></span> - Early bird tickets are on sale now until Feb. 3.<br /><br />If you&rsquo;ve been running on empty and trying to figure out how to lead without losing yourself, this might be exactly what you need.</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/lead-with-heart-summit_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="186981398754710491"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-8268636a-fe9f-4cd0-8a76-1cf35861b2ce" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative; 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                   font-size: 18px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-zvw0kvi039" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Gallup Strengths-Based Coaching</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">This is for you if you&rsquo;re <span style="font-weight:bold">exhausted from trying to be good at everything.</span><br />The CliftonStrengths assessment shows you your <span style="font-weight:bold">natural talents, </span>the things you&rsquo;re already wired to do well. Then we build goals based on your actual strengths, not what some job description says you should be good at.<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">We stop trying to fix your weaknesses</span> and start leading from what makes you brilliant.<ul><li>$2500 for the assessment + 6 months of coaching (bi-weekly)</li><li>$1300 for the assessment + 3 months of coaching (bi-weekly)</li></ul></div>  <div id="961044320547216334"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-b2b8bb03-c14d-41b1-b45e-6d1f09a088bb" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-quike5hhoad {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(249,215,115,0.3686274509803922)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: rgba(0,0,0,1)!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 18px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-quike5hhoad i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-quike5hhoad.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-quike5hhoad.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-quike5hhoad {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 18px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-quike5hhoad {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 18px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-quike5hhoad" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Leadership Circle Profile 360 Assessment and Coaching</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;This is a 360 assessment that shows you how you&rsquo;re actually showing up as a leader, not how you think you&rsquo;re showing up. You get<span style="font-weight:bold"> feedback from your direct reports, peers, board members, and anyone you work with regularly.</span><br /><br />For nonprofit women leaders who are so busy taking care of everyone else, this matters because you often have no idea how your leadership is actually landing.<br />You get the assessment, a two-hour debrief where we go through your results together, and coaching to set goals and work on them.<ul><li>$2000 for the 360 assessment + 3 months of coaching (bi-weekly)</li><li>$3200 for the 360 assessment + 6 months of coaching (bi-weekly)</li></ul><br />If you want to explore coaching, you can <span style="color:rgb(15, 88, 189)"><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/getcoaching.html">book a call with me here</a></span> or hit reply with any questions.</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/published/kathy-archer-coach.png?1769667158" alt="Picture" style="width:314;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">So there it is. Take what you need. Leave what doesn&rsquo;t fit.<br />If you&rsquo;re carrying a lot right now, I hope at least one of these resources helps lighten the load.<br /><br />You don&rsquo;t have to do leadership alone.<br /><br />~ Kathy<br /><span style="color:rgb(161, 43, 134); font-weight:bold">Do the Inner Work. It's Worth it!</span><br />P.S. You can't lead with integrity when you're running on fumes. You can't show up with composure when you're overwhelmed. I know taking care of yourself feels selfish or impossible sometimes, but it's actually what makes you better at everything else. A better leader. A better partner. A better mom. A better human.</div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[I used to feel powerless in my nonprofit meetings. Here's what changed]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/i-used-to-feel-powerless-in-my-nonprofit-meetings-heres-what-changed]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/i-used-to-feel-powerless-in-my-nonprofit-meetings-heres-what-changed#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 22 Jan 2026 01:34:25 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/i-used-to-feel-powerless-in-my-nonprofit-meetings-heres-what-changed</guid><description><![CDATA[       I was sitting in our common area running our team meeting, and everyone had pulled their chairs from their offices into this slightly crowded circle. The U-shaped admin desk sat in the middle, doors open all around us. I wouldn't say it was cozy because it was crowded, but still, it felt comfy enough.I was about to tell my team something they weren't going to want to hear, though I suspected they knew it was coming."I need to let you know about a decision I've made," I said."We have to st [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/dec-18-blog_orig.jpg" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">I was sitting in our common area running our team meeting, and everyone had pulled their chairs from their offices into this slightly crowded circle. The U-shaped admin desk sat in the middle, doors open all around us. I wouldn't say it was cozy because it was crowded, but still, it felt comfy enough.<br /><br /><strong>I was about to tell my team something they weren't going to want to hear,</strong> though I suspected they knew it was coming.<br /><br /><strong><em>"I need to let you know about a decision I've made,"</em></strong> I said.<br /><br /><strong><em>"We have to stop working with clients who fall between the cracks. They now need to fit into one of our three programs clearly. I know we've always kind of slid them in because they have nowhere else to go. Our funder says they won't pay for that work anymore, and I can't find a way to make it work."</em></strong><br /><br />The room went quiet.<br /><br />Jacqueline was the first to pipe up. <em><strong>"That really sucks!</strong></em>"<br /><br />Dan chimed in. <em><strong>"Are you serious? But what about Becca's family?</strong></em>"<br /><br /><em><strong>"Nope. They're one of the ones we'll have to phase out."</strong></em><br /><br /><em><strong>"Ugh,"</strong></em> Dan groaned. <em><strong>"I kind of knew that was coming. I get it."</strong></em><br /><br />And one by one, they all nodded or acknowledged in some way that they understood the decision I'd made.<br /><br /><strong>Something inside me recognized this moment.</strong> Not just what they said, but how it felt. I was delivering news that went against everything we believed in, turning away vulnerable people and clients we loved working with, and I felt confident. Not happy about the decision. No. Confident in how I communicated the decision. Steady. Strong.<br /></div>  <div id="631076526961638346"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-adcf7e3b-5a7e-4135-9b25-b546523d7c90" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-26dbjxt3l0ej" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>But two years before that...</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">Two years before that, I couldn't have handled this&nbsp;<br /><br /><strong>Two years before</strong> that, I was walking up the stairs to a meeting in that big empty office space on the second floor. When I reached the top, I could already see it: two camps. On one side, the people who supported me. On the other side were the three people who were against me. They were whispering!!<br /><br />The room felt huge with harsh light coming through the big windows, barely any furniture, just some <strong>chairs arranged like battle lines.</strong><br /><br />I started the meeting with easy topics, hoping to get people to like me.<br /><br />But as soon as I communicated a final decision I'd made, <strong>I got challenged</strong>. Even though I'd hinted at it for a while and they knew it was coming, there was pushback.<br /><br />I tried to explain. <strong>I tried to defend myself</strong>. But nothing I said landed. The people on my side spoke up a little, but mostly they stayed quiet. They didn't want to go up against the ring leader, Tina, on the other side of the room with her arms crossed and her face tight and tense.<br /><br />Then she said, <em><strong>"I already talked to Bruce. He says we will find another way."</strong></em><br /><br />My stomach dropped. Bruce, my boss, hadn't said a word to me about it. And now, in front of everyone, <strong>I'd been thrown under the bus</strong>. Made to look out of the loop.<strong> Powerless!!</strong><br /><br />When the meeting ended, I walked back downstairs to my office with tears in my eyes. My thoughts started to swirl, and I was convinced my boss was planning to fire me. <strong>I felt my credibility slipping</strong>, the respect of my team, everything I'd built for years, and my family's financial security. All of it, crumbling.<br /><br />But between that meeting and the second one, I did something. I got coaching. I learned how to have a real conversation with my boss about why Tina needed to go, and he worked with me to let her go. <strong>I took leadership training</strong>. I learned what leadership actually means. I learned how to make decisions, how to share hard messages, and how to trust my own judgment. <strong>I practiced. I built the skills I'd never been taught.</strong><br /><br />I became competent. And with competence and practice,<strong> I began to feel confident</strong><br /><br />But in that second meeting, surrounded by my team, Dan had just said they trusted my decision even though they hated it. And everyone around the crowded room had nodded their agreement and support.<br /><br />Suddenly, in that pause, I realized: <strong>I can make hard calls and survive them.</strong><br /><br />Not everyone had to agree with me. Not everyone had to like the decision. <strong>I didn't need to be liked. I needed to be trusted</strong>. And standing there, steady and strong in my message, I was.<br /><br /><strong>I wasn't</strong> the same person who walked down those stairs with tears in her eyes.<br /><br /><strong>I wasn't</strong> the person who felt everything slipping away because one aggressive voice said I was wrong.<br /><br /><strong>I was</strong> the leader who could hold the weight of a hard choice and keep moving forward.</div>  <div id="490851929288181822"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-cdce0e42-c6f9-4d1f-ab26-b900911a8761" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4 {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4 i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-24mig8dsbx4 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-24mig8dsbx4" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>What changed between those two meetings?</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">I learned something about confidence that nobody had taught me before. Confidence isn't some personality trait you either have or don't. It's built on three specific things:<br /><br /><strong>1. Competence</strong><br /><br />If you've never been taught how to lead through conflict, make tough calls, or navigate organizational politics, it's hard to know what to do.<br /><br />You need the actual skills. I had to learn them through coaching, courses, and practice. You can't "confidence" your way through something you don't know how to do.<br /><br /><strong>2. Courage</strong><br /><br />Once you learn new skills, you have to actually USE them. That takes guts. It means risking failure, looking foolish, and making mistakes in front of people.<br /><br />I had to practice having hard conversations, setting boundaries, and making decisions people wouldn't like. Each time I did it, it got a little easier.<br /><br /><strong>3. Confident Mindset</strong><br /><br />Even with skills and practice, if you don't believe you can do it, you won't.<br /><br />Your thoughts matter. I had to shift from "I'm losing everything" to "I can make hard calls and survive it." That belief is what let me stand in front of my team and deliver bad news without falling apart.</div>  <div id="702000639341662402"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-858729d2-9027-4a95-8557-848197a98a34" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-g8wg71uuxil {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.3!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box; 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That's why I do this work now. So other leaders don't have to feel that way.<br /><br /><strong>You deserve to lead with the kind of confidence that actually</strong> holds up when things get hard.</div>  <div class="wsite-spacer" style="height:17px;"></div>  <div class="wsite-youtube" style="margin-bottom:10px;margin-top:10px;"><div class="wsite-youtube-wrapper wsite-youtube-size-auto wsite-youtube-align-center"> <div class="wsite-youtube-container">  <iframe src="//www.youtube.com/embed/gbJDb-dLbTI?wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> </div></div>  <div class="wsite-spacer" style="height:21px;"></div>  <div id="212301028334279209"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-6ac5b3c3-72e0-4a9d-834c-31decd23e8e3" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.3!important;;                font-size: 22px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 22px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-w9wmetf8aue {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 22px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.3!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-w9wmetf8aue" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><b>Ready to build real confidence?</b></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">I'm hosting a 6-session book club on <strong><a href="https://amzn.to/44U6lmy" target="_blank">Mastering Confidence</a></strong> starting <strong>March 6th</strong>.<br /><br />We'll work through the competence-courage-confidence framework together. You'll get practical tools. And you'll be with other nonprofit leaders who understand what it's like to carry this kind of weight.<br /><br />My job, as I see it, is to help nonprofit leaders stop drowning in work, doubting themselves, and carrying it all alone, so they can lead with confidence, set boundaries, and finally take control of their leadership and life so that they have energy left for the rest of their lives at the end of the day. I'm always here to help you do just that!&nbsp;<br /><br /><br />~ Kathy&nbsp;<br /><br /><em><strong>Do the Inner Work. It's Worth it!</strong></em><br /><br />P.S. More details on the book club coming next week, but if you already know this is for you, <a href="https://amzn.to/44U6lmy" target="_blank">grab your copy of Mastering Confidence </a>and <a href="https://kathy-archer.simplero.com/products/246410-Mastering-Confidence-Book-Club" target="_blank">register here</a>.</div>  <div id="341717322117156637"><div><style type="text/css">	#element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f .callout-box-wrapper {  padding: 20px 0px;  word-wrap: break-word;}#element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f .callout-box--standard {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;}#element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f .callout-box--material {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;  box-shadow: 0 0 20px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);}#element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f .callout-base {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;}#element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f .material {  box-shadow: 0 0 20px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);}</style><div id="element-a34355fd-3ffe-41f6-bc25-f93f68fc115f" data-platform-element-id="694046499467037623-1.2.6" class="platform-element-contents">	<div class="callout-box-wrapper">	<div class="callout-box--material">	    <div class="element-content">	        <div style="width: auto"><div></div><div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0px;margin-right:0px;text-align:center"><a href='https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/53As4Sl/2confidenceboosts' target='_blank'><img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/how-to-feel-more-confident-as-a-nonproift-leader-orig_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /></a><div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div></div></div></div>	    </div>	</div></div></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[The Feedback You Never Got -&gt; And How to Get It Before Year-End]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/the-feedback-you-never-got-gt-and-how-to-get-it-before-year-end]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/the-feedback-you-never-got-gt-and-how-to-get-it-before-year-end#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 18 Dec 2025 07:00:00 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/the-feedback-you-never-got-gt-and-how-to-get-it-before-year-end</guid><description><![CDATA[       &#8203;As we wind up week three of December, I bet you&rsquo;re frantically trying to wrap up projects before the holiday break, sandwiching an &ldquo;important&rdquo; meeting between a team holiday event and running to your kids&rsquo; concert. All the while responding to &ldquo;just one more thing&rdquo; before you put on your &ldquo;Out of office&rdquo; email, if you are lucky enough to be able to do that.Maybe you&rsquo;ve started to mentally check out, counting down the days until yo [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/dec-18-blog_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;As we wind up week three of December, I bet you&rsquo;re frantically trying to wrap up projects before the holiday break, sandwiching an &ldquo;important&rdquo; meeting between a team holiday event and running to your kids&rsquo; concert. All the while responding to &ldquo;just one more thing&rdquo; before you put on your &ldquo;Out of office&rdquo; email, if you are lucky enough to be able to do that.<br /><br />Maybe you&rsquo;ve started to <span style="font-weight:bold">mentally check out,</span> counting down the days until you can finally take a breath. In our perpetual state of overwhelm, it&rsquo;s easy to see how that&rsquo;s your daily mantra: Just let me get this done, so I can enjoy the break.<br /><br />And <span style="font-weight:bold">you deserve a break!</span> And I don&rsquo;t want to add one more thing to your list before you go. However, there is one really important thing you may have overlooked. Something you need to do before you return to work or the busyness returns. <span style="font-weight:bold">You need to PAUSE and PONDER. </span>You need to create a bit of space to look back over the last year before you dive headfirst into the chaos of the new year.<br /><br />Most nonprofit managers skip this step entirely. They jump straight from December 31st to January 1st without ever pausing to learn from the year they just lived.<br /><br />I teach my students a different way. Why? Because we all know that most women in leadership never get reliable feedback on their personal growth. That can leave us feeling overlooked and undervalued.<br /><br />Right now, my students in the <span><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/library.html">Training Library</a></span> are going through their <span><a href="https://kathy-archer.simplero.com/annual-analysis">Annual Analysis</a></span>, taking a moment to<ul><li>&nbsp;Celebrate how far they&rsquo;ve actually come.</li><li>&nbsp;They&rsquo;re discovering patterns they didn&rsquo;t know existed.</li><li>&nbsp;They&rsquo;re celebrating wins they&rsquo;d completely forgotten about.</li><li>&nbsp;And they&rsquo;re identifying what actually works for them instead of trying to model someone else&rsquo;s strategy that doesn&rsquo;t fit.</li></ul></div>  <blockquote>&#8203;"I had a really tough year and went through so many challenges. Doing the Annual Analysis helped me realize I learned so much about myself as a person and as a leader this year and I feel like it has really made me a better person for it."<br />~ Member of The Training Library</blockquote>  <div id="537917686740894604"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-583b17b8-cf41-4d23-bbef-16a0fa7a5062" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-4our46donp8 {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-4our46donp8 i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-4our46donp8.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-4our46donp8.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-4our46donp8 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-4our46donp8 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-4our46donp8" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><span id="docs-internal-guid-44fae830-7fff-7ea5-0b98-bc023816e0cf"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The Cost of Skipping Your Year-End Leadership Review</span></span></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;&nbsp;know you&rsquo;re busy. Trust me, I get it. You&rsquo;ve got a strategic planning session in January to organize, a report due before you sign off, a staff schedule to figure out, and probably a million things waiting for you at home.<br /><br />So why should a busy nonprofit manager take the time to review the past year? Because skipping it costs you. Here&rsquo;s how:</div>  <div class="paragraph">1.<span style="font-weight:bold">&nbsp;You don&rsquo;t know what actually worked</span><br />Maybe you think you need to attend more networking events next year, but when you look back, you realize the most valuable connections came from the small mastermind group you joined, not the big conferences. That&rsquo;s important information.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">2. You repeat the same mistakes</span><br />If you don&rsquo;t pause to notice that every time you overcommit in January, you burn out by March, you&rsquo;ll do it again. And again. And again.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">3. You miss celebrating your progress</span><br />I cannot tell you how many times I&rsquo;ve watched a woman leader go through this review process and literally tear up when she realizes how much she&rsquo;s grown. She&rsquo;d been so focused on what she hadn&rsquo;t done yet that she completely missed the transformation she&rsquo;d made.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">4. You set disconnected goals for next year</span><br />Your goals aren&rsquo;t built on the foundation of what you&rsquo;ve learned about yourself. They&rsquo;re just random things that sound good or that someone else told you that you should work on.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">5. You stay stuck in the gap</span><br />You stay stuck in what Dr. Benjamin Hardy calls &ldquo;the gap.&rdquo; We often set goals based on who we want to be or what we want to accomplish. But your happiness as a leader is dependent on what you measure yourself against.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">The Gap</span> is when you measure yourself against an ideal.<br />It&rsquo;s when you think, &ldquo;I wanted to be more confident this year, but I&rsquo;m still not where I want to be.&rdquo; Or &ldquo;I wanted to have a better work-life balance, but I&rsquo;m still overwhelmed.&rdquo;<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">The Gain</span> is when you measure yourself against where you started.<br />It&rsquo;s when you think, &ldquo;A year ago, I couldn&rsquo;t have that tough conversation without losing sleep for a week. Now I can prepare for it and handle it with composure.&rdquo;<br /><br />When you&rsquo;re doing your year-end review, I want you in the gain. I want you to celebrate how far you&rsquo;ve come, not beat yourself up for not being at some imaginary finish line yet. There is no finish line in personal development. It&rsquo;s a journey, and the only relevant comparison is to who you were a year ago.<br /><br />Have I convinced you yet? Good. But before you run off to do this on your own, I need to warn you about something called recency bias.<br /><br />Need a gift for that special person on your team, a colleague, your sister, or maybe even yourself? Grab <a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/character-driven-leadership-book.html">Character Driven Leadership for Women</a> or <a href="https://amzn.to/44U6lmy">Mastering Confidence</a> or maybe even both!</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/books-for-nonprofit-leaders-for-christmas-gifts-by-kathy-archer-png_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="560780369380380060"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-9fc31959-5e4d-4be0-a7b7-4423ae69fa02" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            #seo-title-f70wggw2ml {                text-align: left;                margin: 10px auto 10px;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0);;                padding: 10px 0px;;                color: #333;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5;;                font-size: 25px;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto;;                font-style: normal;                font-weight: 400;;                letter-spacing: 0px;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-f70wggw2ml i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-f70wggw2ml.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-f70wggw2ml.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                #seo-title-f70wggw2ml {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              #seo-title-f70wggw2ml {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }        </style>      <h1 id="seo-title-f70wggw2ml" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><span id="docs-internal-guid-b83cacc1-7fff-273b-d942-7f81a24b6b18"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">The Recency Bias Trap That Derails Women Leaders</span></span></span> </h1></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">Recency bias means whatever&rsquo;s been going on in the most recent past, maybe the last few weeks or months, is what dominates our thinking.<ul><li>If you had a stressful December with budget cuts and difficult staff conversations, then suddenly the whole year feels like it was a disaster.</li><li>If you go to set goals after you&rsquo;ve had a relaxing two weeks off over the holidays or while on the beach, you might look back and think, &ldquo;You know, it wasn&rsquo;t that bad.&rdquo;</li></ul><br />But both of those perspectives are incomplete. They&rsquo;re not giving you the full picture of your 12-month journey. You&rsquo;re missing so much of the story.<br /><br />&#8203;This review process is about gaining a wider perspective on the entire year. Not just the highlights. Not just the hard parts. All of it. The full, messy, beautiful, complicated journey of your growth as a nonprofit leader.</div>  <div class="wsite-youtube" style="margin-bottom:10px;margin-top:10px;"><div class="wsite-youtube-wrapper wsite-youtube-size-auto wsite-youtube-align-center"> <div class="wsite-youtube-container">  <iframe src="//www.youtube.com/embed/rmjXWRkQOww?wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> </div></div>  <div id="558898629186094906"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-b8665b8c-46bd-4897-bd69-99d7612db606" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf {                text-align: left;                margin: 10px auto 10px;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0);;                padding: 10px 0px;;                color: #333;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5;;                font-size: 25px;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto;;                font-style: normal;                font-weight: 400;;                letter-spacing: 0px;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              #seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }        </style>      <h1 id="seo-title-pjnv3j3jgf" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-482c6557-7fff-7fd3-e227-9283f48da99c"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Key Areas for Your Leadership Development Review</span></span></span> </h1></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">You don&rsquo;t need to do a deep dive into every single day of the past year. That would be overwhelming and unnecessary. But there are some key areas worth exploring.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Your growth and self-discovery</span><br />What have you learned about yourself this year? Maybe you realized you&rsquo;re more resilient than you thought. Maybe you discovered a trigger you didn&rsquo;t know you had. Maybe you identified a value that&rsquo;s more important to you than you realized.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Skills you developed</span><br />What did you actually get better at? Public speaking? Delegation? Having tough conversations? Financial management? Write it down.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Values alignment</span><br />Did you live in alignment with your values this year? Where did you honor them? Where did you compromise them? What does that tell you?<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Emotional intelligence progress</span><br />How did you do with managing your emotions and understanding others? Where did you get triggered? How did you handle it? What&rsquo;s improved?<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Leadership development</span><br />How did you grow as a leader? Did you get better at coaching your team? At balancing tasks and relationships? At asking for feedback?<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Self-care and wellness</span><br />How did you treat your body, mind, and spirit this year? Did you prioritize rest? Movement? Connection? Or did you run yourself into the ground? As a woman manager in the charity sector, you&rsquo;re likely giving so much to others. Did you give to yourself?<br /><br />This isn&rsquo;t meant to be done in one sitting. In fact, I strongly recommend against that. Give yourself permission to work through this over a few days or even a week.</div>  <div id="596737633705919337"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-9c24bd81-e44f-40e1-adbc-2a522e1d6b7f" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq {                text-align: left;                margin: 10px auto 10px;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0);;                padding: 10px 0px;;                color: #333;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5;;                font-size: 25px;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto;;                font-style: normal;                font-weight: 400;;                letter-spacing: 0px;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              #seo-title-3m5lowy48qq {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }        </style>      <h1 id="seo-title-3m5lowy48qq" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><span id="docs-internal-guid-e7ca1da7-7fff-093a-a39a-ad737c76af2b"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">How to Actually Complete Your Year-End Leadership Review</span></span></span> </h1></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><span style="font-weight:bold">First, gather some data</span><br />This is the prep work that makes everything else easier.<br />Go through your calendars, both the work one, the family one, and even that one on the fridge. Look at your photos from the year. Scan your journals or notes if you keep them. Check your text messages and emails. Look at what books you read, what podcasts you listened to, and what courses you took. You&rsquo;re just refreshing your memory about the full year, not just the last few weeks.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">&#8203;Then, look for themes and patterns<br /></span>What kept coming up? What surprised you? What &ldquo;aha&rdquo; moments did you have? What emotions keep re-emerging? This is where the real learning happens, and you begin to have PIVOTS in your perspective. You start to see patterns you didn&rsquo;t notice in the moment. You realize that every time you said yes to that one committee, you felt drained for weeks. Or that the months when you prioritized morning walks were the months you felt most clear-headed.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Next, celebrate the gains</span><br />Write down what you accomplished. How you grew. What you learned. Who you&rsquo;ve become. Let yourself feel proud of that. Tell someone about it. Give yourself a high five. I&rsquo;m serious.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">And then, identify areas for growth</span><br />Not from a place of shame or &ldquo;I should have done better,&rdquo; but from curiosity. What do you want to explore next? What skills do you want to develop? What version of yourself do you want to grow into?</div>  <div id="658789575626613804"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-72ee0c97-c07a-4904-8c06-7195a87ec799" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi {                text-align: left;                margin: 10px auto 10px;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0);;                padding: 10px 0px;;                color: #333;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5;;                font-size: 25px;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto;;                font-style: normal;                font-weight: 400;;                letter-spacing: 0px;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              #seo-title-l8xcpez2wi {                    text-align: left;                    font-size: 25px;                    letter-spacing: 0;                    line-height: 1.5;                    padding: 10px 0px;                }            }        </style>      <h1 id="seo-title-l8xcpez2wi" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span ><span id="docs-internal-guid-387df678-7fff-a582-3483-f90d0881f9c7"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Your Next Step as a Growing Woman Leader</span></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h1></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><br />I know how it feels to have no clear way to get feedback on your personal development as a leader. No one was focusing on my inner growth and development either for years. Not the kind of growth about who I was, rather than what I&rsquo;d accomplished. I had to create my own system for this.<br /><br />Once I started regularly reviewing my growth, everything changed. I had the certainty that I was evolving. That certainty gave me the confidence to use my strengths and the courage to help others discover theirs, which helped develop a team and team culture in ways I couldn't have imagined.<br /><br />I&rsquo;ve now helped hundreds of women leaders in the nonprofit and charity sector do the same thing because I know that your ongoing personal and professional development is your path to success in leadership and life. Without regular analysis of how you&rsquo;re doing, it&rsquo;s hard to know what to work on next. And that makes it hard for you to excel.<br /><br /><strong>FREE RESOURCE<br />&#8203;</strong>So here&rsquo;s what I want you to do today: Download my free Strategic Year-End Review Guide. It&rsquo;s going to give you an exercise to strategically reflect on the past year so you can move forward with clarity and intention.<br /><span><a href="https://lp.constantcontactpages.com/sl/9jMFLGB/strategiclookback">Do this free exercise<br />&#8203;</a></span><br /><strong>DO THE DEEP DIVE</strong><br />If you want to go deeper with a structured system, grab the full <span><a href="https://kathy-archer.simplero.com/annual-analysis">Annual Analysis</a></span> like my <span><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/library.html">Training Library</a></span> students are doing. I'd love to have you join us. The course includes 12 comprehensive worksheets covering everything from your self-discovery journey to your leadership development, plus guided lessons to walk you through the entire process. And as a <span><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/library.html">Training Library</a></span> member, you'll also get access to the full library of leadership courses, live coaching calls, and a community of women leaders who get it.<br /><span><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/library.html">Join The Training Library</a></span><br /><br />Do this today because if you don't prioritize your personal growth and development, no one else will. Stop waiting for someone else to tell you how you're doing. Become the ever-evolving woman leader you want to be known for by learning from your past.<br /><br />~ Kathy&nbsp;<br />Do the inner work. It's worth it.<br />P.S. My <span><a href="https://www.kathyarcher.com/library.html">Training Library students</a></span> are doing their <span><a href="https://kathy-archer.simplero.com/annual-analysis">Annual Analysis</a></span> right now. Join us before the new year so you can start January with clarity instead of chaos.</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/leadership-blueprint-header_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div id="991154195828385381"><div><style type="text/css">	#element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4 .callout-box-wrapper {  padding: 20px 0px;  word-wrap: break-word;}#element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4 .callout-box--standard {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;}#element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4 .callout-box--material {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;  box-shadow: 0 0 20px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);}#element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4 .callout-base {  border: 1px solid #E0E0E0;  background: #FAFAFA;  padding: 20px 20px;}#element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4 .material {  box-shadow: 0 0 20px rgba(0,0,0,0.15);}</style><div id="element-b7528632-fb03-4b51-8e49-19645cd45ed4" data-platform-element-id="694046499467037623-1.2.6" class="platform-element-contents">	<div class="callout-box-wrapper">	<div class="callout-box--standard">	    <div class="element-content">	        <div style="width: auto"><div></div><div class="paragraph">Tired of starting each year in survival mode?<br />My 3-week group coaching program, Create Your Nonprofit Leadership Blueprint, will help you<ul><li>Set goals that actually stick,</li><li>Build sustainable habits</li><li>Create a personalized roadmap for success.</li></ul>Join me starting January 9th and make 2026 your most intentional year yet!<br />Learn more about creating your Blueprint</div></div>	    </div>	</div></div></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[What If You Had the Energy to Actually Be Present This Holiday Season?]]></title><link><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/what-if-you-had-the-energy-to-actually-be-present-this-holiday-season]]></link><comments><![CDATA[https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/what-if-you-had-the-energy-to-actually-be-present-this-holiday-season#comments]]></comments><pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2025 05:02:09 GMT</pubDate><category><![CDATA[Uncategorized]]></category><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.kathyarcher.com/blog/what-if-you-had-the-energy-to-actually-be-present-this-holiday-season</guid><description><![CDATA[       As the busyness of the season ramps up, you not only have gifts to buy, baking to do and decorating to complete, but you also have all of that stuff at your programs too!If you aren&rsquo;t careful, you&rsquo;ll end up in survival mode. I know, because I did.You know what I&rsquo;m talking about when I say survival mode. It&rsquo;s that place where you&rsquo;re barely hanging on. You are afraid you&rsquo;re going to drop the ball. I felt so overwhelmed and so behind. This left me feeling  [...] ]]></description><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/dec-11-blog_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">As the busyness of the season ramps up, you not only have gifts to buy, baking to do and decorating to complete, but you also have all of that stuff at your programs too!<br /><br />If you aren&rsquo;t careful, you&rsquo;ll end up in survival mode. I know, because I did.<br /><br />You know what I&rsquo;m talking about when I say survival mode. It&rsquo;s that place where you&rsquo;re barely hanging on. You are afraid you&rsquo;re going to drop the ball. I felt so overwhelmed and so behind. This left me feeling frazzled and grumpy, always run-down and sick, and constantly exhausted.<br />&#8203;<br />You may be thinking, yup, that&rsquo;s me too! And you may be wondering how the heck you can change this feeling in the midst of everything that&rsquo;s going on? Because Lord knows, we don&rsquo;t have time to take care of ourselves&hellip; or do we?</div>  <div id="119292318192848374"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-529befaf-1f7c-447b-ba0f-d0a7f27f1d48" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-m70qioxlgz {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-m70qioxlgz i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-m70qioxlgz.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-m70qioxlgz.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-m70qioxlgz {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-m70qioxlgz {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-m70qioxlgz" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-e39190e4-7fff-c30a-2c58-d466044ef6b7"><h2 dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.38;margin-top:9pt;margin-bottom:9pt;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Nonprofit Leader Burnout Is at an All-Time High</span></h2></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;First, I need you to know that you aren&rsquo;t the only one struggling.<br /><br />According to YMCA WorkWell&rsquo;s 2024 report, 1 in 3 Canadian nonprofit leaders are experiencing burnout often or extremely often. And if we include those burning out &ldquo;sometimes&rdquo;? That number jumps to 71%. That&rsquo;s an alarming number of leaders experiencing burnout!<br />&#8203;<br />Add to that the Christmas season and everything else you&rsquo;ve got going on, and it&rsquo;s no wonder you&rsquo;re feeling like a bag of wet noodles with nothing left to give</div>  <div class="wsite-youtube" style="margin-bottom:10px;margin-top:10px;"><div class="wsite-youtube-wrapper wsite-youtube-size-auto wsite-youtube-align-center"> <div class="wsite-youtube-container">  <iframe src="//www.youtube.com/embed/9Be22CXhfk4?wmode=opaque" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe> </div> </div></div>  <div id="850841740718004120"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-1245574c-311c-43d4-a270-a7ccecb5edf6" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-hwpznzpehr {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-hwpznzpehr i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-hwpznzpehr.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-hwpznzpehr.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-hwpznzpehr {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-hwpznzpehr {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-hwpznzpehr" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-5d147f93-7fff-fb82-4f21-52fedf7d390d"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">When You&rsquo;re Depleted, You Can&rsquo;t Be Present</span></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">There were many years when I was not fond of Christmas. While raising four children and working full-time was challenging, the magnitude of &ldquo;stuff&rdquo; I dealt with during the holidays often put me over the top.<br /><br />There were always deadlines to meet by the end of the year, sorting out how to meet client needs over the holidays, staff time off, and ensuring proper coverage. No wonder I was a basket case by the time old St. Nick had to put the presents under the tree.<br />&#8203;<br />While I knew everyone was struggling to a degree, I felt alone with my struggles. I didn&rsquo;t want to share my burdens with other people who seemed to be enjoying the holiday build-up. So, I suffered alone for many years.</div>  <div id="163848324250825514"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-d71c9bdd-cb91-4e52-9338-7498083dbcd4" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-b3yylhm39hd {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-b3yylhm39hd" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-23a42cb0-7fff-d302-a622-afc344f1728a"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">How often do you feel isolated and alone in your leadership role?</span></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;Do you put on a smile and power through the last few days leading up to Christmas? It doesn&rsquo;t have to be this way!</div>  <div><div class="wsite-image wsite-image-border-none " style="padding-top:10px;padding-bottom:10px;margin-left:0;margin-right:0;text-align:center"> <a> <img src="https://www.kathyarcher.com/uploads/5/9/9/8/5998742/books-for-nonprofit-leaders-for-christmas-gifts-by-kathy-archer-png_orig.png" alt="Picture" style="width:auto;max-width:100%" /> </a> <div style="display:block;font-size:90%"></div> </div></div>  <div class="paragraph">&#8203;Need a gift for that special person on your team, a colleague, your sister, or maybe even yourself? Grab Character Driven Leadership for Women or Mastering Confidence, or maybe even both!</div>  <div id="776058227330902524"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-e3f609f0-2c18-4223-abce-1c62af447876" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-pdhbclf77pd {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-pdhbclf77pd" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-287fabfa-7fff-48aa-8abf-667c7e910d4d"><h2 dir="ltr" style="line-height:1.38;margin-top:9pt;margin-bottom:9pt;"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">How to Manage Your Energy When You Can&rsquo;t Add More Hours</span></h2></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">We can&rsquo;t change how many hours are in a day, but we can manage our energy, because it&rsquo;s often our energy that&rsquo;s drained.<br /><br />There are four energy pots that need tending:<br />&nbsp;Physical energy<br />&nbsp;Emotional energy<br />&nbsp;Mental energy<br />&nbsp;Spiritual energy<br /><br />When we&rsquo;re slipping into survival mode, getting cranky, feeling that cold coming on, and getting drained, yet we&rsquo;ve still got parties to attend, a team who needs us, and work to finish before the year ends, we need to put something back into those pots, and we don&rsquo;t have a lot of time to do that!<br />&#8203;<br />So, you need to think about what you can do in the micromoments you make. Think about 1 to 5-minute pockets where you can &ldquo;fuel back up&rdquo;.</div>  <div id="591546836499282017"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-50367689-c6b1-4094-9804-793c65b6a43a" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.2!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.2!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-9zoj96t9roq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.2!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-9zoj96t9roq" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-ce3ac377-7fff-0e72-8788-b943eadf37e8"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">A 5-Minute Self-Care Strategy for Busy Leaders</span></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">Here&rsquo;s your 5-minute strategy to restore your sanity:<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Step 1: </span>Pause and ask yourself: Which energy pot is the emptiest right now? (your physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual pot?)<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Step 2:</span> What can I do in five minutes or less to put back into that pot?<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">Step 3</span>: Do that thing.<br />That&rsquo;s it.&nbsp; It&rsquo;s a temporary fix until you have time for a deeper charge.<br />But it will keep you from falling apart, burning out, and resenting Christmas.</div>  <div id="829545631826565327"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-590fe14b-f8f9-4bc4-960c-474e80a80d68" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-wsc19vs6poq {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-wsc19vs6poq" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-edf3f7d7-7fff-bf31-43f6-0cd34f8b0230"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Quick Wins for Each Energy Pot</span></span><h2 style="text-align: left; margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph"><span style="font-weight:bold">If your physical pot is drained</span>: Eat something nutritious. Drink water. Stretch. Go for a short walk, even around the building. Close your eyes for a moment and take a few deep breaths.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">If your emotional pot is drained:</span> Let yourself cry for a moment. Crank up a song that shifts your mood. Laugh. Sometimes it&rsquo;s just sitting there and acknowledging what is, letting it be.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold">If your mental pot is drained:</span> Breathe deeply. Clear the clutter in your workspace. Stop multitasking and focus on just one thing. Doodle or colour for a few minutes.<br />&#8203;<br /><span style="font-weight:bold">If your spiritual pot is drained: </span>Pray. Meditate. Listen to music. Head out into nature. Reach out to someone and connect from the heart.</div>  <div id="350693310773480871"><div><style type="text/css">	</style><div id="element-4ac71af7-e523-4c0b-b8f4-0850e12224e6" data-platform-element-id="517124899938984189-1.0.0" class="platform-element-contents">	<style>            .bundle-seo-title-link {                position: relative;            }            .bundle-seo-title-link a {                position: absolute;                left: 0;                top: 0;                width: 100%;                height: 100%;            }            body #seo-title-73z19mzgce8 {                text-align: left!important;                margin: 10px auto 10px!important;;                background-color: rgba(0,0,0,0)!important;;                padding: 10px 0px!important;;                color: #333!important;;                text-decoration: none;                line-height: 1.5!important;;                font-size: 25px!important;;                -webkit-box-sizing: border-box;                box-sizing: border-box;                font-family: Roboto!important;;                font-style: normal!important;                font-weight: 400!important;;                letter-spacing: 0px!important;;                                                                border-radius: 0px 0px 0px 0px;                overflow: hidden;            }            #seo-title-73z19mzgce8 i {                font-size: inherit;            }            #seo-title-73z19mzgce8.bundle-seo-title-link:hover{                background-color:  rgba(0,0,0,0);                color: #333;                border-color: #333;            }            #seo-title-73z19mzgce8.button-shadow-normal {                -webkit-box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);                box-shadow: 2px 7px 12px 1px rgba(0,0,0,.2);            }                       @media(max-width: 768px) {                                body #seo-title-73z19mzgce8 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }            @media(max-width: 576px) {                              body #seo-title-73z19mzgce8 {                    text-align: left!important;                    font-size: 25px!important;                    letter-spacing: 0!important;                    line-height: 1.5!important;                    padding: 10px 0px!important;                }            }        </style>      <h2 id="seo-title-73z19mzgce8" class="bundle-seo-title"> <span  spellcheck="false"><span id="docs-internal-guid-e6d553ee-7fff-0be1-e00d-c87f6338afdf"><span style="font-size: 18pt; font-family: Arial, sans-serif; color: rgb(0, 0, 0); background-color: transparent; font-weight: 700; font-variant-numeric: normal; font-variant-east-asian: normal; font-variant-alternates: normal; font-variant-position: normal; font-variant-emoji: normal; vertical-align: baseline; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Want to Go Deeper?</span></span><h2 style="margin-top: 0.5em; margin-bottom: 0.5em;"></h2></span> </h2></div><div style="clear:both;"></div></div></div>  <div class="paragraph">This quick strategy will get you through the next few days. But you also need to plug in longer and get that deep charge.<br /><br />I&rsquo;ve got a free webinar that will help: Stress Management for the Busy Nonprofit Leader.<br />Did you know that stress affects leaders differently from non-leaders? You bet it does! In this webinar, you&rsquo;ll learn 3 strategies for leaders to renew and recharge.<br /><span><a href="https://kathy-archer.simplero.com/page/685531">Watch the FREE Webinar</a></span><br />You deserve to enjoy this season too, not just survive it&nbsp;<br /><br />Go make the rest of your day awesome!<br />Kathy<br />Do the inner work. It&rsquo;s worth it.<br />P.S. 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