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2020 Year End Reflection for Women Leaders

24/12/2020

Women leaders: It's time to review 2020

It's time to take stock
Regardless of what's happened, as each year comes to a close, most of us take stock.

What happened that we want to mark in some way?
What do we want to bury and forget?
What lessons can we take with us into the coming year?

You may do some of this reflection in bits and spurts throughout the coming days. That's a good start. Talk to those around you as well. What's been meaningful, hard or joy-filled for them?

Set time aside for intentional reflection
I also encourage you to do a bit more of a formal review of your year. Without sitting down being intentional about it, you'll miss opportunities to see where and how you've grown. Snippets of reflection may leave you hopping over key lessons or significant moments of happiness, pride, joy and connection.

I strongly encourage you to find an hour in the coming days to review 2020. If you can, take out a piece of paper, a journal or a document on your computer. Note key areas you want to review and then take some notes.

Try answering these questions
One of the best ways to review is to ask yourself questions. Try these 3 to start:

What were my biggest challenges this year?
What were my biggest areas of growth this year?
What were the biggest lessons I learned this year?

Want to dive even deeper?
If you are in The Training Library, I just released this month's session: Goodbye 2020. In it, I included a worksheet with several questions to reflect on.

Additionally, I provided some insights and training on grief and loss, change and provided some reflections on how to help you process what's still causing you inner turmoil.

If you aren't in The Training Library, feel free to join now. It's a great time to dive into some of the lessons, worksheets and training to help you put your best self forward in 2021.

When you join, you'll get the first two weeks free to check out everything, try out the courses and decide if it's right for you.
I'm convinced it will be if you want to have someone on your side available and support you and your leadership growth in the new year.

You get the best of my work!
The work inside of The Training Library is my passion, my love, and I put my heart into each of the sessions. I want you to excel, transform and live and lead in the most authentic way you can!

I am adamant that no one should have to do leadership alone!

I'm on your team!

Are you ready to make 2021 your year?
Make 2021 the year that you put your personal and professional development a priority. When you do, you'll find that you will begin to really enjoy impactful leadership!

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Stop being so dang positive! Try this instead..

10/12/2020

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Leaders keep trying to be positive, but that's not always the best option.

A leader's job is to stay positive all of the time. WRONG!

A leader's job is to lead a team
Sometimes that means you're positive. But more often than not, it means you're honest.

A leader's job is not to stifle emotions
I coach leaders all the time who want to turn people's moods, perspectives or feelings around.
They want to take a difficult transition or a change that's happening and make everyone see the positive out of it.

You can't ignore your team's emotions!

Let me give you an example
My friend recently lost his wife. He took care of her for months while she battled cancer. In the end, she couldn't talk, and he spoke for her to visitors. They had been together for over 30 years and were soulmates.

That's a difficult situation. I cannot say to him...
I know it's hard, but look at the positive:

Things will be cheaper now!
You won't have her nagging you anymore.
You could find someone prettier for a second marriage.

Indeed, you can see how heartless that is 😳

Similarly, we try to do this with our teams
We take a difficult situation and try to hop them over the grief, loss and pain and suffering that they are experiencing.

We try to minimize it.
We try to overlook it.
We try and move people through change as quickly as we possibly can.

2020 has been hard!!
Grief and loss are what we have experienced this year. Those feelings are not something you can move through quickly, get around or avoid.

What you can do is experience them. You can move your way through the emotions surrounding grief and loss.

Learning to let your team feel the hardness of this year
How do you sit with the icky feelings so that you can move through them?

1) ALLOW emotions to show up

2) ACKNOWLEDGE the emotions

Name them to tame them....as we learned in the Emotional Control course

3) ENABLE the emotions to move through you and others.

Note: The opposite is to stuff emotions down, hide them or shove them away.
My guess is you probably already know this may work in the short term, but longterm, it has some serious consequences.

You're becoming an emotionally intelligent leader
The ability to recognize and manage your own emotions and those of others is a sign of an emotionally and socially intelligent leader.

Leaders do set a vision,
but they also help their team get there!

Yes, your job as a leader is to help teams see the other side
A leader is taking a team a direction via a powerful vision. You'll need to be motivating and inspiring to get there. And sometimes getting them to that vision will be hard on them.

What you can do
When it's difficult, we need to sit down beside our team and talk about how hard and difficult it is.

Let them express their frustration, anger and anguish.

When that wave of emotions has passed over, we ask them if they're ready to get up and move along.

Are they ready to move on?
Sometimes they are ready, and we can then be positive again.
Sometimes they need more time.
If they get stuck, we may need to nudge them along a little bit with hard truths, inspiration, and motivation.

Someone once wisely said:
There is a time and a place for everything!

Practically how do you do this?
👉You slow things down.
👉You'll allow space for frustration and disappointment in conversations about the pain and agony.
👉You acknowledge the emotions rather than trying to push them away.

EXERCISE: Try this with your team
On this week's podcast, I talk about looking back over 2020. If you're looking for an exercise to do with your team to help acknowledge all of the rainbow of emotions that have happened, get them to listen to the podcast.

First, ask them to reflect on the questions I offer in the episode such as:

Where have I grown?
What or who has help that growth?
What implications does that change in me have for next year?

There are lots more questions I threw into the mix in the episode.

Next, sit down and discuss the answers together. Remember to allow and acknowledging what you have all been through how you've grown as a team.

Then, when the emotions have been acknowledged...smile and gently bring on the positivity...if the time is right!

To dive a bit deeper into a review of 2020, check out the course My Training and Growth Annual Analysis which is one of many inside The Training Library, which is a membership site for women leaders who want to grow personally and professionally and always have someone in their corner!

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