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Do goal setting the right way this year with these 10 books

28/12/2018

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As we move into a new year, many of us are setting goals and trying to figure out how to make them stick. Let’s be honest. They won’t. 80 - 90 % of New Year’s resolutions fail.

Do you know why? It’s because you are focused on the goal, not the system you need to achieve those goals.
Keep reading to find out how to make sure you are one of the 10% who is successful this year!
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The goal of losing weight was the same goal for the lady who did it and the one who didn’t. The difference was that one lady made a HABIT of eating healthy and created a SYSTEM for making sure she exercised several times a week.

It has nothing to do with the goal you set. It’s how much you focus on HOW you will reach that goal. It’s all about routines, habits, systems and having the self-discipline to follow through on the routines, habits and system.

The first thing you need to look at is WHY you want to achieve this goal.

That comes down to your values. If you want to get to inbox zero by the end of each week, that might be because you believe it’s respectful to reply to people within a reasonable time. It could be about efficiency or productivity. It may also be connected to wellness.

If you haven’t defined and made sense of what your values mean to you, it’s hard to stick to your goals. Losing weight may be about fitting into that dress before the wedding, it could also be about preventing diabetes that runs in your family.
  • One is feeling confident.
  • The other is health and wellness.
Once you’ve identified your values, that will help you develop habits, routines and systems. Going for a walk several times may be enough to keep diabetes at bay. Hiring a fitness trainer may be needed to whittle that middle!

To help you develop the habits, systems and routines to meet your goals as well as the self-discipline to follow through, I’ve attached some of my favourite books. These will help you get clear and develop that ability to achieve your goals this year!
10 Books that will help you reach your goals this year!
  1. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We do in Life and Business 
  2. Smarter Faster Better
  3. High Performance Habits: How Extraordinary People Become That Way
  4. Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
  5. Getting Things Done: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity
  6. Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less
  7. Time Shifting: Creating More Time to Enjoy Your Life
  8. The Way We're Working Isn't Working: The Four Forgotten Needs That Energize Great Performance
  9. Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength
  10. ​The Willpower Instinct
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Do this before the end of the year if you want MORE!

27/12/2018

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What do you want more of? As we start to contemplate the coming year, set goals and make New Years Resolutions, you've probably thought about more of something. If you want greater success at achieving that this year, try doing  the following before the end of the year to get MORE!
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What do you want MORE of?
  • Happiness
  • Time
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Money
  • Confidence
  • Productivity
  • Willpower to eat healthily or head to the gym?

Why do you want more?
Perhaps a better question is WHY? Why do you want more of that? Why does that matter that you have more of that?

More Health? WHY?
If you want to be healthier in 2019, consider for a minute why you want to be healthier.
  • Is it because you want to live longer?
  • Maybe you want to be able to get on the floor and play with your children or grandchildren.
  • It could be that you are tired of huffing and puffing when you bring the groceries in.
It may be all of those, but what is truly the driving force behind why you want to be healthier? Knowing why you want something will give you the motivation to make that goal stick.

Your why is connected to your values
The reason behind why you want to achieve something is that it's important to you. You value it. You may value your health, your relationship with your kids or your grandchildren or you may value self-compassion and are finding you haven't been too kind to your physical well-being lately.

Regardless of what you will set for New Years Resolutions or goals, knowing WHY those are important to you will help you be much more successful.

Let me show you how it works:
Here are some goals I've had over the last few years.
  • To read 50 books
  • To publish my first book
  • To grow myself spiritually
  • To strengthen my marriage
  • To complete 400 hours of coaching
  • To develop a stronger yoga practice
  • To develop my capacity for compassion
  • To spend 1-1 time with my adult children
  • To increase the number of people who are receiving my weekly newsletter


My top value is Excellence. I used to think that meant good grades and being the best, smartest or quickest. Exploring my values has helped me to understand how the value of excellence shows up in my life and how it can help me to achieve my goals. Here is how I define my value of excellence:
  • Excellence is living into my full potential each and every day and aiming to reach my potential in life.
  • I strive to excellence as a person, wife, mother, grandmother, community member, coach, teacher and writer. As such I challenge myself, persist through those challenges by excelling in:
  • My physical, emotional and spiritual health and wellbeing
  • My relationships
  • My service in my work and in my community
Look at my list above of some of the goals I have set over the years. The majority of them come back to living to my full potential, being my personal best and demonstrating excellence in all that I do, in my personal life and in my service to you and in my community.

When I have done the work to get clear on my core values, I can then be better able to set goals for 2019 that will stick.

What does this mean for you?
Here's what you need to do:
  1. Identify your top values.
  2. Then define what those values really mean to you.
  3. Get clear on how they show up in your life and how you can be sure you are living your life aligned with those core values.
If you take time to do this before the end of the year, you can be sure to set goals and resolutions that are not only meaningful but that you will find greater success in achieving!

If you need help with identifying, defining and clarifying your values, grab the Values Verification course today. Schedule in a couple of hours to work on it in the next few days. Then, use your new understanding of your values to set goals for 2019!

Whether you do this on your own, or with the help of the Values Verification course, I'd love to hear how you are using your values to set goals for 2019! Shoot me an email and tell me what you've learned about how to make 2019 goals that stick!

I know I'll be looking at where I can excel next...I suspect that will be in The Training Library as I strive to give you my best, so you can be your best in both leadership and in life!
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This course helps you verify your values
If you want help doing the work of defining your values, click here to find a Values Verification course which is part of my membership site, The Training Library. When you join The Training Library, you will get the leadership training you need when you need it.
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Increase your sense of well-being by focusing on these

13/12/2018

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Here is a quick quiz for you to rank how well you are doing in contributing to your wellbeing.

Do work to do these 5 core elements of well-being?
  1. Express Positive emotions.
  2. Feeing Engaged in what you are doing.
  3. Ensure you are involved in good Relationships.
  4. Finding Meaning in what you do.
  5. Accomplishing positive things.

If you wish for more wellbeing and happiness, you might want to increase your focus on these components.

​I'll give you some ideas of how to do that below! It starts with Positive Psychology.
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​What's Positive Psychology got to do with wellbeing? Lots!

Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, says that when you practice these 5 things, (The PERMA model of well-being), you bring order to the chaos of your life. While these 5 components don't define well-being he says, they contribute to it.
The PERMA Model
  • Positive emotions isn't about always being happy, happy happy necessarily.
    • It's being optimistic. That's one of the Signature Strengths from the VIA assessment that I encouraged you to do a little while back. p.s. Martin Seligman was instrumental in the development of the VIA and the development of character research.
  • Engaged is that sense of losing sight of what's going on around you because you are engrossed in what you are doing.
    • It's often called being in flow. It's also been shown to be one of the key factors for successful teams. It's when you as a leader create engaged teams that according to Gallup research, you flourish. Oh, by the way, another tidbit of information: Tom Rath, the author of Strength's Finder, which is all about employee engagement, was one of Martin Seligman's first Masters of Applied Positive Phycology degree. Yes, I geek out over this stuff 🙈
  • The connections we develop in our relationships give meaning to life.
    • It is where compassion, caring, love and kindness all come into play. Yes, more signature strengths from VIA.
  •  I often ask you a couple of key questions: Why bother? What's the point?
    • When you have a bigger sense of purpose to your day, your work, your life, you are happier and yes more fulfilled. That sense of meaning contributes to your well-being.
  • Accomplishing something positive, whether that is at work, with your family or in your personal life feels good.
    • What's more, it contributes to your self-esteem and builds competence and confidence.
3 steps to help you impact your wellbeing!
When you focus on these 5 components, you'll be doing both. Here are the steps for doing that.

.......... √ Be intentional
  • You can't do it all. Pick one area to focus on.
    • Perhaps you will choose to work on a specific relationship with someone.

.......... √ Create a habit of practice
  • Change takes time and effort. Pick one small thing and make it a habit that you do.
    • You could start a habit of making eye contact and smiling at this person each time you walk into the office in the morning.

.......... √ Journal each day
  • Documenting, reflecting and measuring is what truly makes a difference.
    • This might be as simple as marking a little check mark at the top of each day in your agenda when you do it. A line through the checkmark might indicate they smiled back at you. At the end of the week, you can notice how often you did it and how effective it was in making them smile. You might also notice what overall effect that has had on your relationship.

Other factors that contribute to your well-being
Tom Rath, whom I mentioned above, wrote not only the Strength's Finder, but also a book called Eat, Move Sleep: How small choices lead to big changes. Tom knows that these are the foundations for being able to do the others: Feel positive emotions, be engaged in what you are doing, have strong relationships, contribute something meaningful in your life and accomplish good things.
Don't forget to take care of yourself!
This time of year can be tough on your sense of well-being!
This can be an incredibly stressful time for many of us. I've fallen apart many times in December; physically, emotionally, spiritually and in my relationships. Each year I work to add new habits, routines and practices to ensure I enjoy December more and more. And do you know what? It's working!
Tonight I'll be singing with my church choir to a group of seniors.
I created that practice last year, and it makes an incredible difference to all 5 components.
  • It gives me a burst of Positive emotions.
  • I get so Engaged I lose track of time.
  • I build Relationships with these old folks that warm my heart.
  • That connection makes me feel like I am contributing Meaningfully to their wellbeing too.
  • That will make me feel like I Accomplished something worthwhile today!
Work on the 5 components of PERMA, and you'll be contributing to your well-being!
  1. Positive emotions
  2. Feeing Engaged
  3. Involved in good Relationships
  4. Finding Meaning in what you do
  5. Accomplishing positive things
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Is your organization only giving lip service to self-care?

6/12/2018

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We all know that self-care is important, but do YOU practice self-care AT WORK?

Yes, I want to know if you practice self-care AT WORK??
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We think self-care can only happen AFTER WORK
Self-care is often seen as taking a bath in the evening, going for a massage and of course, trips to warm sunny locations.

Self-care AT WORK looks like this:
  • Standing up and stretching
  • Grabbing a drink of water
  • Going to the bathroom
  • Taking a little walk
  • Meditating for 5 minutes

🗣Self-care is preached:
Do you have policies about self-care? Maybe you even have a wellness committee. Perhaps your organization has yoga mats with your logo on them. Mine did years ago. We KNOW that self-care is important. But....


❌​Self-care is NOT practiced:
Think about it for a minute. Is it ok to practice self-care in your workplace? Or does it feel weird to do self-care activities?
  • Do people look at you funny?
  • Do you get the sense that you are seen as spoiling yourself, being lazy or just doing it wrong?
  • Do you try to hide your self-care practice?

🚫Self-care may even be taboo!
If you were to take a 10-minute nap at your desk and someone walked in and "caught" you, would you feel as though you had just done something wrong? It shouldn't be that way, should it?


It's up to you to change the culture of your organization!
Women like us crave self-care. It's more than knowing it's important; We want to put it into practice for ourselves and our teams. We want to role model it, encourage others to take care of themselves. We want to let our team know that it's safe to practice self-care, acceptable and even encouraged.


It takes moral courage to change cultures
Last week. I talked about moral courage. That's the courage to do the right thing, even if it is scary, awkward and goes against the grain. Moral courage is knowing what is right and wrong or ethical and then having the courage to act on that awareness. We all know the right thing to do, is to take care of ourselves.


My challenge to you
If you are a woman leader, like most of us, you are ready to change your team.
I challenge you to add self-care into your WORKDAY and to encourage those around you to do the same.
Let me know how it goes!!!

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