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Become a COMPOSED leader by practicing willpower!

10/9/2019

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Would you like to feel confident that you will be able to maintain your composure in your next meeting or conversation? If you are like most leaders...
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You have a tough conversation or meeting coming up. 
  • You worry you’ll say something wrong, and everyone will know you're unsure and worse they’ll see it! 
  • You fear they will hear it in your voice, see your hands shaking or wonder if you are about to break down. 

But what you deeply desire is to feel composed. 

You want to walk away feeling like you didn’t get your panties in a knot; unruffled and clearheaded. 
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What gets in the way of that: 

Unmanaged thoughts and emotions. That’s the bottom line. 
When you feel flustered in a meeting when your nerves get the better of you, and you feel anything but composed, it’s because your thoughts and emotions have gone crazy.

​Your thoughts and emotions are in control of you instead of you being in control of them 🥴
Here’s what a lack of composure looks like:
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🚩 You begin a bit too aggressively, to defend yourself or your point.
🚩Your voice gets shaky, high pitched or louder than necessary.
🚩You point your finger at someone accusingly or bang on the table a little too hard.
🚩You go along with something because you know you’ll get too emotional trying to fight for what you really want. 
🚩You cut people off, shut them down or use sarcasm to quiet them because their comments are triggering something and you can’t quite figure out how to deal with whatever is bubbling up inside of you. ​
I felt that way too!
I know, me too! I spent years worried I was not in control. That left me feeling incompetent, afraid and wondering if I was cut out for a leadership role. Over time, I learned how to regain that feeling of being in control. Being in control of my thoughts and emotions gave me the courage, confidence to lead.

Let me show you how, so you can lead your amazing team and make the difference your org can make!
So, what exactly is composure?
Being composed is when you are in control; in control of your thoughts, emotions and behaviour. Being composed is feeling calm, confident and in control!

How do you get more composure?
You get control of your thoughts and emotions by training your brain, which will help you become Emotionally Intelligent.

🔸Emotional Intelligence is being able to both recognize and manage your thoughts and your emotions. 

Training your brain, your thoughts and the subsequent emotions requires willpower. Willpower, or lack of it, will either give you a sense of composure or leave you feeling anything but composed in tough conversations.
If you want to find yourself feeling calm, confident & in control
in your next meeting, learn to develop your strength of will.

🦉Daniel Goleman defines willpower this way: 
​"Willpower is the ability to consciously regulate what you feel and what you do".


Think of any strong, competent and composed leader you know, and I bet they can regulate themselves! The good new is you can also learn to regulate you what think, feel and what you do too!

If you want to become a more composed leader,
grow your willpower!
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