If you are like most leaders, you moved up the ranks coming into a supervisory or leadership position with little or no formal training. Perhaps that is why you feel like you are floundering through your days and bumbling through meetings, tasks, and expectations. It’s no wonder you struggle with confidence.
It’s hard to feel confident when you don’t feel competent!
Do you have the skills necessary
Consider for a moment you ability to handle the following leadership skills:
Are you getting the point?
While many of the skills you learn in life help you in leadership, they are not the same. You may need more formal training in some of the areas to feel comfortable as a leader.
To increase your competence as a leader, and thus your confidence, there are 3 steps
1) Identify skills you need to work on
Determining what you want to work on goes beyond what is on your performance appraisal. Honestly, your company is more worried about their needs than yours. What I am suggesting here, may be things you want to work on yourself rather than what is expected of you.
Think about the areas you feel shaky in.
Also, consider what skills make a good leader.
Which of those do you feel you need to work on? Here are a couple of good articles to check out that will give you some information about the skills necessary for effective leadership.
TASK: Make a list of the skills you want to work on.
2) Get the training you need to increase your skills
Once you have identified the skills, look at where you can get training for that skill.
Consider reading books, attending webinars, finding a mentor or coach or taking training that will grow you from the inside. We know that confidence is what you think you can do, therefore, start looking at retraining how you think.
TASK: Move forward with one of your identified training options.
3) Practice, practice, practice
Once you know what you need to do, you then need to put your new skill into action. However, you need to realize that it will feel awkward and weird in the beginning. It will feel strange to do this thing in a new way. Whether you are learning how to add a column using formulas in a spreadsheet or shifting the way you do staff meetings by starting them with kudos, it will feel weird. The catch is, to become proficient at a skill you need to practice it. By practicing the skill then you will you know you can handle it when that skill is being called upon.
TASK: Schedule time to practice your new skill.
Competence is increasing your capacity to do something
The ongoing skill development and subsequent practice will move you to feeling experienced and capable. Feeling more competent is what boosts your confidence. When you know you can handle a particular task; you feel much better about getting at it. The tendency to hesitate or procrastinate decrease. Your doubt diminishes. Uncertainty is replaced with self-assuredness. It is a whole different feeling when you know that you can handle it. Increase your skills and you will feel your confidence rise. Make you sure you know you can!
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Women leaders often hit a point where they find themselves in over their heads and wondering if they have what it takes to lead.