I bet you don't know this but OMG you should!

I bet you know what you don't want as a woman leader. But do you know what you DO want?
👉️Do you know clearly?
👉️With specificity?
👉️In detail?

I think we can agree you know kind of what you DON'T want:
You know

• you don't want to feel like you are in survival mode all day every day. 
• you don't want to feel incompetent, incapable, and out of control anymore.
• you are so done with doubting yourself, hesitating and holding back.
• you're tired of being tired 😩

You probably know generally what you DO want:
✅You want to feel better. 

• But what does that mean?
• Happy and joyful? Content?​

✅You want to get stuff done on your to-do list

• But what does that mean?
• Complete all 57 things every day?
• Clear it once a week? 

✅You want to do the work that really matters.

• But what work are you talking referring to?
• What work, specifically is that? 

✅You want to be a better leader.

• But how so?
• How would you know if you were?
• What would you be doing differently than now?

✅You want more family time.

• How much time? When?
• Daily or just more time on the weekends.
• Does that include one-to-one time with your spouse or kids?

But are you clear on what you DO want? 
💎CRYSTAL💎CLEAR?? 

An example to make it clear 😊
Let's imagine you're going to purchase a new car.

• You walk into the showroom, and the salesperson says: What are you looking for?
• You can't merely answer: A new car.

👉️You need to get 💎CRYSTAL CLEAR💎

• Do you want a 4-wheel drive, two-door or four?
• Are you looking for a gas car, diesel or electric?​

The same is true if you are buying a house, looking for an outfit for that special occasion or for that matter, picking a life partner. 

You need an idea of what you want. 
The more specific, the better ✔️

For example:

• It needs to have lots of legroom in the back seat
• My daughter's colours are pink and grey, and I want it to complement those colours 
• I need LOTS of closet space

Back to you and getting out of survival mode:
Let's go back to last week's discussion on survival mode. You know what you don't want. But do you know, specifically, with precision and 💎crystal clarity what you do want? I'm going to suggest it's time you did.
Get really clear on what thriving means for you
You need to get clear on what the other end of the spectrum looks like for you. I call this your thriving target. Take time to create a vision for yourself that precisely includes what you want.

This may example may look similar to your Thriving Target
⭐️I leave the office no later than 6 pm daily.

⭐️I have 1 hour a week to read a book for my leadership development.

⭐️I engage in 1-1 conversations with my four managers about their growth plans monthly.

⭐️I have a least 10 minutes a day to think strategically before I have to manage people, delegate tasks, or deal with things.

⭐️I have a manageable workload. I'm confident in my ability and have a supportive work environment that allows me to delegate some tasks, say no to others and reprioritize when new opportunities arise.

DO THIS to create your thriving target:

1. Schedule time in your agenda (No, I won't stop nagging you about actually scheduling time in because honestly, if you don't schedule it, chances are, you won't do it!)
2. Free write about what it looks like for you to thrive in your leadership role. Make sure to focus less on what you don't want and get more and more specific on what you DO want.
3. Grab this guide Your Thriving Target to go a little deeper into what it looks like for you when you ditch survival mode and begin to thrive more in leadership and life!

There is one little ⚠️WARNING ⚠️ I want to share.
Creating that target won't make it happen. It's only the first step.
You've then got to come back and create a plan and do the work to get there.

• Doing that work is often uncomfy - Setting boundaries
• It requires you to focus on something amidst the distractions - Can I just ask you a quick question?
• Oh and...um ugh...it means you've got to get really good at managing your thoughts and emotions. Because let's be honest. Just saying you are going to leave at 6:00 doesn't take into account the guilt you feel about the project that's due tomorrow, the thoughts about how bad you'll look if you don't complete it on time and the overwhelming urge to "just this one time" stay late.

-That requires you to focus on your self-control, inner discipline or willpower. Yes, there is that willpower word again. 

🆘HERE'S A GREAT OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU
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