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How to manage your emotion and energy when leading your nonprofit

17/2/2021

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As I walked into my office, my administrative support, Wendy, asked me a question. I turned and glared at her. Then, as I turned back and kept on walking, I answered Wendy through my teeth! I certainly didn't have the patience for her BS right now. 

Timeout!
But....why didn't I have the patience for Wendy at this moment? 
Was it because she had done something wrong?

** Possibly, but the way I handled it was all on me.

Being Bitchy
Ok, let me start by saying I do not like that word at all! If you can give me another word that we all know and understand to describe what I mean, please message me and tell me a better word. It's not merely being rude or being cranky it's more than that. And we've all been there.


Staff challenges
I've had my fair share of staff challenges, and I bet you have too. We have staff that don't get along, stir the pot on the team, mess up with clients, neglect their paperwork, or in general, are somewhat incompetent at their job. And we need to address those issues.


How are you addressing the issues?
  • Confidently?
  • Respectfully?
  • With your integrity intact?
The way you handle situations comes back to your character and your reputation. What do you want people to say about you and about the way you dealt with the situation? My guess is you don't want them to leave the interaction, head to her co-worker and say, "Holy smokes, is she ever bitchy today!"

Instead, you probably want them to say something like, "That was a tough conversation, but I feel like she's supporting me and wants to help me out."

What gets in the way?
We are women leaders. There is a lot that can get in the way that has nothing to do with the work, the person we are dealing with, the sector or the issue at hand.

▶︎ It might, however, have to do with that time of the month.
▶︎ It might have to do with that time in our life cycle.

▶︎ It could also be that our hormones are off due to our diabetes or thyroid issues.

▶︎It might result from a lack of sleep because our toddler kept us up, we fought with our partner or dealt with night sweats half the night.

Hormones, emotions, burnout
How you respond to a challenge with your employee is less about the words you use and more about how you deliver that message. Hormones, emotions and burnout all factor in. They are all things you need to be aware of, manage and, yes, at times, workaround. 


3 strategies to help you manage your reputation

1) Be mindful of your body, mind and soul
  • Tune in to your body to see what's really going on.
  • Practice mindfulness

2) Be in control of your schedule so you can adjust when needed based on mood and energy levels.
  • Work at home some days. 
  • Take a break to move your body, have a healthy snack or give yourself a few moments of much-needed solitude
  • Move a talk to the afternoon if you need time to settle your emotions from the night before.

3) Be honest
  • Communicate somethings off
  • Role model vulnerability


We respect vulnerable leaders
Most of our nonprofits are full of women, all of whom are likely going through similar emotional, hormonal and energy roller coasters. When you acknowledge where you are at, it makes you seem more human and permits others to do the same. Humour is useful in these kinds of situations if that's a strength of yours, but so is self-compassion, kindness, honesty and bravery. 


Extra Resources 
For those of you in The Training Library, here are some resources you might want to check out to help you ditch the bitchiness and lead with confidence!
  • WEBINAR: Gossiping, Hormones and Backstabbing: Leading in Predominantly Female Teams
  • WEBINAR: Develop Your Strength of Character
  • WEBINAR: Managing Your Emotions at Work
  • WEBINAR: Staying Composed During Meetings, Conversations & Challenging Times
  • WEBINAR: Breath Magic - Breathe your way to being a calm, composed and in control leader!
  • WEBINAR: How to deal with OFFICE POLITICS with calm confidence
  • WEBINAR: Managing stress on the fly!
  • WEBINAR: The 5-Minute Self-Care Strategy for the Swamped Gal
  • WEBINAR: Thriving Through COVID-19 - Mini Training
  • COURSE: Wellness AT Work


You are human! Don't forget that
Remember, it's not what you do as a leader that counts. It's how you do it. And you are a human being. You have emotions, hormones and a life outside of work that factor into how you lead. Don't forget to take that into account. When you do, you'll ditch survival mode and learn to thrive in both your leadership and your life!
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6 reasons leaders need to practice mindfulness and how to do it quickly!

11/2/2021

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Did you know that practicing mindfulness can make you a better leader?
You bet it can!

Mindfulness helps you to: 
  1. Be Decisive: make better decisions
  2. Have Stamina: endure through long days
  3. Remain Calm: be more relaxed during crises
  4. Be Composed: maintain your cool when triggered by a comment
  5. Focus: able to concentrate instead of feeling frantic and scattered
  6. Prioritize: able to use your judgement to put your attention where it's really needed


AND....Mindfulness helps you to be a compassionate leader: 
Instead of being stiff, bristly and focused only on tasks and results, mindfulness helps you be a warm, caring, compassionate, emotionally and socially intelligent leader. 


You are a caring person!!!
And let's be honest, that's who you are at your core! You are kind, caring and passionate about your work. Sometimes, we just get caught up in the mess of the day, lose contact with that part of ourselves (unmindful) and lose touch with the human side of our leadership capacity.


Mindfulness doesn't necessarily mean meditation
Now that we've confirmed, it might be a good idea to practice mindfulness; my guess is your thoughts immediately go to meditation. While that may be helpful, and I encourage you to try that, you don't have to meditate to practice mindfulness.
How to add moments of mindfulness into your day
This morning I ate my breakfast. That's it. I just ate my breakfast.
  • No music playing
  • No book in my hand
  • No phone beside me
  • No TV, YouTube or training course

I just ate my breakfast

As I ate my breakfast, I was aware of the sounds around me.
  • The fan running in the fireplace
  • The sound of myself breathing
  • My dog snoring down the hall
  • The sound of myself chewing
  • The fridge running
Books on Mindfulness and Leadership
  • Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system 
 
  • Mindful Leadership: The 9 Ways to Self-Awareness, Transforming Yourself, and Inspiring Others
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  • The Pause Principle: Step Back to Lead Forward​

  • Breathe: The Simple, Revolutionary 14-Day Program to Improve Your Mental and Physical Health
You don't have to live alone to do this!
But you might be saying I can't do that. I have a houseful. True. And when you sit and eat and listen to the sounds in your household, what do you hear?
  • My daughter would hear her roommates fighting 
  • Perhaps you hear the TV on, music or kids bickering 

You might also tune in to what you taste.


Use your senses at any moment to be mindful
Your senses are wonderful ways of bringing you present, being mindful in this moment 👃🏼👂🏻 👋🏻 👀 👅 Even during a meeting, travelling or watching tv, you can practice tuning into your senses.


As I practiced mindfulness this morning, I tasted the cinnamon in my oatmeal, the ground hazelnuts, craisins sprinkled in and the almond milk on top.


Mindfulness is being mindful of this moment...it's that "easy"
Practising mindfulness is simply just that, practising being mindful of whatever is happening around you. 


Are you present or in the past or future?
Instead, most of us let our thoughts pull us back to what happened and regurgitate what went wrong. Alternately, we focus on the future and fret and worry about what is to become. To be mindful is to be in this moment, whatever is going on!


Mindfulness helps you build compassion, care and connection in your nonprofit
In this week's episode of the podcast, Elizabeth Bishop and I talk about love in your nonprofit. By love, we mean compassion, connection and caring. The problem is many of us have lost touch with that part of our leadership capacity. And it shows.
  • We've lost the passion for our work  
  • We don't so much like the people we work with  
  • Sometimes we forget the meaning behind why we do what we do, the outcomes for our clients and the community
You can regain your love for your job, your compassion for the people you work with and reignite that in your team.
More help to build your compassion, kindness and mindfulness 

To help, tune in to my conversation with Elizabeth for tons of ideas, insights and the incentive to practice mindfulness.

For more information on how to use mindfulness to maintain your composure during tough meetings, those of you in The Training Library can watch this webinar.
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TRY IT: Just for a moment now, tune into your senses. Be present to this moment!
Go make the rest of your day awesome!
Have you lost your passion for your work?
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  • Do you wish you could feel engaged, create an engaged team and enjoy the work you do?

All of that comes from allowing your heart to be involved in your work.
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Too often, we’ve been told to stop being so emotional. To no be so caring.
We’ve been told we’ll burn ourselves out. ​ But we are burning ourselves out by not caring, not feeling and numbing out.
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In this episode, Elizabeth and I engage in a dialogue about bringing your heart back into your work!
You’ll learn strategies, mindsets and most importantly, you’ll gain the permission to once again feel the love in the workplace!
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3 Ways to connect to your inner world, so you can make a BIG difference in your outer world.

18/7/2019

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What is the thing you want most to accomplish as a leader? I mean most...not get through your ToDo list, clean out your inbox or have people just do what they are supposed to do. I mean, why are you in this job?
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Beyond the paycheque, why do you do what you do?

Keep reading and find out how you can do that 
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Do you want to make a difference?
My guess is that it is to make a difference; To change lives; To do purposeful work. I bet that you work in your organization, deal with the politics, handle the immense responsibility, and put out all of the fires that you do because you want to know that somehow, the work you are doing will make the world a better place.

I certainly know that's why I am here today emailing you and why I worked so hard with my teams over the years. It's because I know that together we can make the world a better place to live in for the next generation.

How would you rate yourself?
If that is your "Why" too, how are you doing? On a scale of 1-10 rate, how well you did that yesterday? 
  • 0 - Purpose? What purpose? 
  • 10 - I was totally on track with the feeling I was making an impact in the bigger scheme of things. 

How do you feel about your score? Try these:
  • In the last week, how would you score yourself?
  • ​The last month?

Are you unhappy with your score?
If you are unhappy with your score, my guess is that you've been spending a lot of time chasing tasks, meetings, emails and projects. My guess is you've spent less time on relationships, people and in your inner world.

Inner world? Yes, inside of your heart and your head...the part of your head that connects to your heart.

You need to spend more time in your inner world
Our inner world is our meaning-making system. It's what we use to make sense of the world we live in. Our inner world is comprised of our values, beliefs and morals. It's this inner world that creates our mental models, those assumptions, perspectives and opinions, and what we use to make decisions. 

Your inner world might be a bit of a mess!
When you rarely visit your inner world, it gets overgrown with weeds! What was once a beautifully clear set of values around how you will treat others in life, has been taken over by the weeds of deadlines, checklists and company policies. 

You are hiding your inner beauty!
You, my dear, have a beautiful heart. 💜You are full of love, compassion and fun. But you don't let it shine enough. You hide that part of you in favour of order, control and fear.
God forbid you let your guard down, or you will lose control of your day, your people and your world. 

But in truth, you've already lost control. 😞
When you chase the task part of your world and neglect your people and your relationships with them, you'll never make the difference you want to make. Your ability to control your impact in the world will be lost.

Connect to your inner world and to your people and your score will go up!
The way to come back to finding a balance between the tasks you are responsible for and the people you are growing is to slow down and connect to your inner world a bit more. When you do, you'll find you naturally find more time to connect to your people and together talk about your united purpose and find more creative, fun and powerful ways to achieve your organizational mission and purpose together.

3 Ways to Connect to Your Inner World
So you can make a BIG difference in your outer world.
Write
For some, this means journaling, but it doesn't have to be.
I find that by writing answers to questions, I find in books, on podcasts or in courses are great ways to get me connecting to the part of me that makes meaning in my world. It's often through this that I find clarity on my values and beliefs. That clarity often helps me to realize where I have been working form mistaken beliefs or unclear values.
  • DO THIS: Find a ton of free worksheets to write your way to clarity in your inner world


Get quiet
If meditation is your thing, great. Do it. But getting quiet doesn't have to be all zen and chanting.
  • DO THIS: Practice just being quiet during regular, every day activities.
    • ️Just eat! 🥗
      • Get rid of the phone beside you and pay attention to chewing and the taste.
    • Just go to the bathroom! 💩
      • I'm serious. Stop thinking and just pay attention to the task at hand...it's called presence 
    • ️Just drive! 🚘️
      • Shut off the radio or audio books. Don't make any phone-calls. Pay attention to the road, smile at the other drivers and enjoy the drive.


Connect with nature
I recently posted about the number of plants I have in my home/office! Can you guess how many? Find out how many here. The point being, nature doesn't have to be the forest. Ways to connect to nature in the office:
  • Watering plants or picking dead leafs off of them ☘️
  • Listening to the birds outside of your window 🐥
  • Stopping to watch the storm release its torrent of rain ️​☔️
DO THIS: Look around you now and see where you could either find or create a connection with nature. Set aside time to do that today!
When you connect more frequently with your inner world, you'll find your outer world more balanced. The tasks you are responsible for are essential. But please don't forget to balance them with the people in your life!

If you want even more help to connect to your inner world, so you can make a more significant difference in your outer world, but are looking for a guide in that process? Check out The Training Library for a ton of mini-courses and training sessions to guide you to deeper understand your values, beliefs, emotions, and how to use those to more effectively lead. ​
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Ongoing training to grow women leaders in ​🇨🇦 Canada's Nonprofit Organizations.
Not a member of The Training Library yet? 
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​Join for $24.97 and enjoy a monthly webinar plus a library of courses to support your ongoing personal and professional development that is affordable and easily accessible!
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Discover the emotions that are safe for you to express at work

9/8/2018

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We’ve been taught to keep our emotions in check at work. However, we all know that’s not as easy as it sounds.
  • Can’t you be angry if something goes wrong?
  • Shouldn’t you be able to express disappointment in someone’s performance?
  • It is ok to be excited, happy and joyful no? Just not much or too often right?
Hmmmm how do you know which emotions are ok and which aren’t?
You will discover that in this week’s training session where you will learn which emotions that are safe for you to express at work!

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Watch the session on YouTube here


LINKS FROM TODAY’S SESSION

Join the CONFIDENT WOMEN LEADERS COMMUNITY here:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/confidentwomenleaders/

Emotions List
http://thework.com/sites/thework/downloads/worksheets/Emotions_List_Ltr.pdf

Manage your emotions at work training:
http://www.silverrivercoaching.com/eitraining.html

More info on learning to manage your emotions
http://www.silverrivercoaching.com/blog/hijackedemotions

Create your plan to get out of Survival Mode
https://kathyarcher.lpages.co/5-mistakes/

Find MY BOOK -  Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system
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End your crazy days - Discover the magic pill to find sanity

26/7/2018

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Do you sometimes pray you could just snap your fingers, and everything would settle down, and you’d feel sane again?

I’ll let you in on a little secret. It can be that easy!
Honestly :-)

Listening and discover what the magic pill is to find sanity and where YOU can get your prescription!
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Watch the video on Youtube here

LINKS from today's session
  • Join the CONFIDENT WOMEN LEADERS COMMUNITY here:
  • Manage your emotions at work training
  • More info onlearning to manage your emotions
  • Create your plan to get out of Survival Mode

Find the book: Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system
  • On AMAZON
  • On Itunes
  • Get it free when you sign up for Audible​​

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Learning to Proceed

26/6/2018

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Once you’ve stopped (PAUSE) to reflect on what’s been going on (PONDER) and shifted your perspective on things (PIVOT) you need to back into action (PROCEED)

Proceeding forward by taking that action isn’t always easy!
  • Maybe you realized you DO need to go have THAT conversation.
  • Perhaps you made a tough decision and now you have to communicate it.
  • It could be that you became aware of something you have to stop doing

In this  training session I teach you the 2 steps you need to take to get back into in action.
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Watch the video on YouTube here
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LINKS from today's session
  • Join the CONFIDENT WOMEN LEADERS COMMUNITY
  • Get today’s GUIDE SHEETS -Learning to PROCEED
  • Find past GUIDE SHEETS here
  • Learn more about the MASTERING CONFIDENCE INTENSIVE here
Get all of the FREE Mastering Confidence goodies here
Find MY BOOK - Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system
  • On AMAZON
  • Get my bookFREE on Audible
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Learning to Pause

24/5/2018

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​Taking a moment out of your day to catch your breath and tune in can feel like a perk or even a waste of time. You certainly don’t want anyone to catch you with your feet up! Ah, but in this week’s Facebook Live session, I’m going to let you in on a little secret: The best leaders pause more! In this week's Facebook Live session, I show you how to do it too!

​Watch and learn why you need to add more pauses into your day and exactly how to do just that!


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Watch it on YouTube here

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LINKS from today's session
  • Join the CONFIDENT WOMEN LEADERS COMMUNITY here
  • Get today’s GUIDE SHEETS -  Learning to Pause
  • Get all of the FREE Mastering Confidence goodies at:
  • Find MY BOOK -  Mastering Confidence: Discover your leadership potential by awakening your inner guidance system
    • On AMAZON 
    • ​Get my book FREE on Audible

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If you want something different, be intentional about creating it.

7/6/2017

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The life you want doesn't happen by accident. It requires you to be intentional about creating it. 

This week, learn how to intentionally change how things are going in your life. Then, deliberately start planning and creating a new way, 

Don't forget to download your free guide to help you initiate the process of intentionally creating the life you desire.
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Ask me questions and gain insights as you learn to lead and live with more balance and enjoyment.

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Why you need a plan to deal with your pesky thoughts

16/5/2017

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Perhaps, if you have been following my videos, you are becoming more aware of your thoughts. 

AND...perhaps you aren't all that happy with some of your thoughts. Maybe some of your thoughts are annoying and getting in the way.

In this video, I am going teach you about creating a plan to deal with your pesky thoughts. Don't forget to download your free guide to help you start the process of planning to deal with those pesky thoughts.
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Join me most Thursdays at 12:15 MDT for a Facebook Live session.
Ask me questions and gain insights as you learn to lead and live with more balance and enjoyment.

If you aren't sure how Facebook Live sessions work, learn more here.
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Mind chatter - 3 things you need to know for more success

9/5/2017

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Thoughts, a voice in your head, monkey brain, or mind chatter. We call it many things, but it’s all the same. It is the conversation or monolog we are having with ourselves inside our head. What you need to know about that mind chatter is this:​
  • it’s there,
  • it rules your life and
  • you can manage it.
Let me break that down further.
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MIND CHATTER is there:
We all have thoughts; the majority of them are unconscious. It is the thoughts we are oblivious to, that often lead to experiencing our lives in ways we don’t want.
 
For example, many of us don’t realize that via our inner thoughts, we have been convincing ourselves that we can’t handle our overwhelming responsibilities, appointments and to do’s.
 
Yet, if you stopped and paid attention to your thoughts you might hear your mind repeating similar phrases like a broken record:
  • I’m never going to make it through this day.
  • I have way too much to do.
  • I’ll never get done this.
  • There is no way I can handle this.
  • I’ll be lucky to get through half of this.
The thoughts we have been thinking automatically have been inducing the sense we have of pressure, strain, and anxiety. 
MIND CHATTER rules your life:
What you think about creates your experience of life. Or…what you expect, you get. It is those unconscious expectations that you are setting for yourself that make you feel the way you do.
 
In the example above, your unconscious thoughts of overwhelm gave you the experience of feeling incompetent in handling your day. When you have those repeating thoughts in your mind that are reminding you that you can’t handle it, you create your sense of overwhelm. That draws your attention to notice everything that goes wrong, every second “stolen” from you and each extra task added to your list. 
You can manage your MIND CHATTER:
​When you become more aware of your thoughts, you can choose what you are thinking. Those different thoughts shift your experience.
 
Once more, using the example above, you could begin to manage your thoughts about your day. Instead of the catastrophic thoughts that you have about your overwhelming day, you can catch yourself going down that path and turn a different way.
 
By choosing instead to think about your ability to handle things and to be alert for opportunities, you change your experience.
  • I can handle my day.
  • I am good at prioritizing.
  • I will set a manageable list of what I can accomplish today.
  • I will look for tiny moments of time found through the day.
  • Even though it feels awkward, I will set boundaries with my team creating pockets of deep work time.

When you become more conscious of your inner thoughts and then shift them, you also find you experience your day differently. You didn’t necessarily change anything going on outside of you; you shifted your thought about what was going on outside of you. The tasks, meetings, and duties are still there; they just have less power over you. Shifting your mind chatter leave you feeling more in control and on top of the priority projects; not everything, but you know that it’s the true priorities that matter at the end of the day. ​
​The tools to managing your thoughts:
  • Breathing
    • Take a deep breath. That will bring you back to the present moment and more aware of what you are thinking.
  • Meditation
    • The practice of sitting still for a few moments a day trains your brain to be less automatic and racing. Instead, you cultivate a sense of groundedness. Practicing the skill of not reacting to every impulse that jumps out at you lets you be less reactive and more responsive throughout your day.
  • Journaling
    • By taking a few movements each day to journal your thoughts, you become more aware of irrational believes, unhelpful views and thought patterns.

Watch this video to get a better understanding of how you can change your mind chatter.
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​Developing an awareness of your mind chatter helps you to manage it. When you manage your thoughts, you manage your life. It is by handling  your inner world that you create the experience in the outer world that you desire. Remember, what you need to know about that mind chatter is this: it’s there, it rules your life, and you can manage it.

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